Do you see any goats around? No, because I sacrificed them.

Willow ,'Showtime'


Spike's Bitches 44: It's about the rules having changed.  

[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.


smonster - Sep 23, 2009 6:18:41 am PDT #24097 of 30000
We won’t stop until everyone is gay.

Actually, I think the key to this is being able to not be bothered by the fact that someone may not like you because you said no.

Yeah, this is a major part of my issue. I'm so terrified of conflict and I really want people to like me. Oh, hello, lifelong struggle - we're going to be together a long, long time so let's make friends!

Honestly, I can't tell you how many times I've thought, "Man, I so wish I could channel Vortex right now..."

Steph, uggh. Definitely sweet of The Boy but yes, I can see why you need to do it yourself. I like your point about the housework. Starting with small, concrete things is a good way to practice.

(Also: Viva la pee!!!)

HAH!

She had a bad attitude with me and I was trying to give her money.

::blinks:: Well, there went the last teeny scrap of sympathy I might have for her cluelessness.

One hour and fifteen minutes later... I have approached the task, done some prelim work, opened the document, and figured out where I'm going to start. But not actually started. Wow, sometimes I fascinate me.


Scrappy - Sep 23, 2009 6:34:51 am PDT #24098 of 30000
Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.

I have to say no, and do disciplinary hearings and even fire people and I find it fairly easy, mostly because I work in a very supportive place and if they are getting warnings or whatever, it's because they really did bad work over a long period of time. They're adults and if they choose not to follow the very clear and gentle training we give, then they made their freaking bed.

I have had so many incompetent, clueless or actively unkind bosses in the past that I look on this job as a chance to do those things in the most respectful and caring way possible. I try to be the boss I wanted when I was in the employee's position. Doing it that way makes it a lot easier for me--and for them, I hope.


omnis_audis - Sep 23, 2009 6:56:19 am PDT #24099 of 30000
omnis, pursue. That's an order from a shy woman who can use M-16. - Shir

Skip! Sorry. But thought the news was worthy.

Quick phone call from sis this morning. Dad is sitting in a chair and grumpy. No more tube down throat. Still sore tummy. Not eating or drinking yet. Hopes to be moved out of icu late today or tomorrow.


Nora Deirdre - Sep 23, 2009 6:56:52 am PDT #24100 of 30000
I’m responsible for my own happiness? I can’t even be responsible for my own breakfast! (Bojack Horseman)

oh, omnis, what a relief!


smonster - Sep 23, 2009 6:58:43 am PDT #24101 of 30000
We won’t stop until everyone is gay.

Yay for grumpy chair-sitting dad!


Liese S. - Sep 23, 2009 7:20:18 am PDT #24102 of 30000
"Faded like the lilac, he thought."

I'm not a boss or a parent, but I have no problem saying no or laying down the law as a teacher. Hey, I've got a classroom of barely sober kiddoes who may or may not be on opposing sides of the local gang war, I'm not wasting too much time with wondering if it's an appropriate boundary to set. But I also have the luxury of my program being completely voluntary, and the worst possible punishment to not be allowed to participate. Clear guidelines established from the beginning and consistent enforcement. Not that we always get there, but we definitely try.


Seska (the Watcher-in-Training) - Sep 23, 2009 7:22:43 am PDT #24103 of 30000
"We're all stories, in the end. Just make it a good one, eh?"

That's great, omnis!


Typo Boy - Sep 23, 2009 7:29:51 am PDT #24104 of 30000
Calli: My people have a saying. A man who trusts can never be betrayed, only mistaken.Avon: Life expectancy among your people must be extremely short.

"No" has never been a problem for me, ever. The other half, giving orders, "you must do this" and imposing consequences when people don't that is tough.


Calli - Sep 23, 2009 7:31:09 am PDT #24105 of 30000
I must obey the inscrutable exhortations of my soul—Calvin and Hobbs

That's terrific, o_a! I hope your dad continues to improve.

I didn't have much trouble setting boundaries as a teacher in a nearby community college. It's a great gig. You don't have to deal with parents, and you can tell the students, "You're free to not do the homework, not show up, not act appropriately in class, and not study. And I'm free to flunk you. For anyone who wants to avoid that, here's the syllabus. Let's get started."


Shir - Sep 23, 2009 7:34:44 am PDT #24106 of 30000
"And that's why God Almighty gave us fire insurance and the public defender".

Oh omnis, wonderful news!