When I was growing up I had a friend whose dad's arm was deformed. I tried really hard not to stare at it but sometimes I did without realizing it. If he noticed he never said anything. He was a very cool dad.
Wesley: Feng Shui. Gunn: Right. What's that mean again? Wesley: That people will believe anything. Actually, in this place, Feng Shui will probably have enormous significance. I'll align my furniture the wrong way and suddenly catch fire or turn into a pudding.
'Conviction (1)'
Spike's Bitches 44: It's about the rules having changed.
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
Laga - Feb 24, 2009 2:43:32 pm PST #1922 of 30000
You should know I'm a big deal in the Resistance.
erikaj - Feb 24, 2009 2:46:22 pm PST #1923 of 30000
Always Anti-fascist!
Yeah, I know! I mean, sometimes it feels good, even though it is an extra responsibility, but sometimes I feel like a certain kind of parent sees me and says "There's one!" and crosses me off, next to Pet Death. Acknowledging contagion anxiety is not the same thing as it being okay to indulge it.
§ ita § - Feb 24, 2009 2:47:45 pm PST #1924 of 30000
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.
My best friend when I was little had one leg amputated below the knee. I never found out why. I wanted to be handicapped like him. I think my parents handled it fairly well.
sj - Feb 24, 2009 3:10:35 pm PST #1925 of 30000
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
Erika, I'm totally with you on not wanting to have to be the one to teach someone else's kids about disability. The worst are when parents come up to you with their kids and ask me to explain my disability to them. It hasn't happened in a while, thank goodness.
Hil R. - Feb 24, 2009 3:17:44 pm PST #1926 of 30000
Sometimes I think I might just move up to Vermont, open a bookstore or a vegan restaurant. Adam Schlesinger, z''l
The worst are when parents come up to you with their kids and ask me to explain my disability to them.
What? People actually do that? That's ... remarkably rude.
Glamcookie - Feb 24, 2009 3:18:48 pm PST #1927 of 30000
I know my own heart and understand my fellow man. But I am made unlike anyone I have ever met. I dare to say I am like no one in the whole world. - Anne Lister
Totally rude.
javachik - Feb 24, 2009 3:35:17 pm PST #1928 of 30000
Our wings are not tired.
"I am not a lesson-on-request."
Emily - Feb 24, 2009 4:58:37 pm PST #1929 of 30000
"In the equation E = mc⬧, c⬧ is a pretty big honking number." - Scola
but sometimes I feel like a certain kind of parent sees me and says "There's one!" and crosses me off, next to Pet Death.
I think I just spit on my cat by accident. The picture of that list is so clear in my head.
Vortex - Feb 24, 2009 5:02:10 pm PST #1930 of 30000
"Cry havoc and let slip the boobs of war!" -- Miracleman
Jeez, I'm tired. Just home from work. I was out yesterday, so the usual catching up. Unfortunately, it was exacerbated by the fact that my student assistant is an idiot. I ended up not getting home until 4AM the night before (thank you Mom).
He was supposed to do a bunch of copying and filing so that I could make some stuff happen today. I get to the office late, and discover the he has done NONE of the copying and filing because, wait for it, the copier was out of paper.
Now, he did not go to any of the other offices in the building to ask it they had paper, he didn't email me or call me (I'd left my cell number and told him that I would be checking email and answering the phone). He didn't even tell me that he hadn't done it!
There will be a come to Jesus meeting on Friday.
erikaj - Feb 24, 2009 5:25:41 pm PST #1931 of 30000
Always Anti-fascist!
sj, Exactly! And sometimes it's completely parentally-initiated. Which is way weirder than a kid saying "cool chair!" or stuff like that. more pressure to say The Right Thing, and be role modelly. Which I am better at than Barkley, but still not always prepared for. Thanks, Emily.