Please...Wesley...why can't I stay?

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Natter 63: Life after PuppyCam  

Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.


askye - Feb 22, 2009 9:02:02 am PST #7399 of 30000
Thrive to spite them

Mom has a Rule of 3 for cleaning, every day she has 3 things she's going to do for the day and then during the day, (like say during a commerical break on tv) she tries to pick up and put away three things.


beekaytee - Feb 22, 2009 9:29:02 am PST #7400 of 30000
Compassionately intolerant

The additional charge had a practical motivation in addition to being a 'hassle tax'. Working with a clutterer who thinks they want order is torturous. A LOT more therapy goes into those hours and my therapy clients pay alot more! So I found myself doing hard physical labor PLUS therapy for much less money. Not a good equation for me.

Only one client ever took me up on that and it was...as predicted...hard.

I love the rule of three erika. I should adopt that.

And Scrappy is me with regards to letting stuff get used by people who will use it.


Kathy A - Feb 22, 2009 9:37:13 am PST #7401 of 30000
We're very stretchy. - Connie Neil

Watching "Clean Sweep" on TLC is almost painful, especially when they have people who refuse to let things go. The organizers on that show have to go through so much therapy on camera in between trying to clean out (usually) 50-70 percent of the stuff in these people's rooms.


Steph L. - Feb 22, 2009 9:42:25 am PST #7402 of 30000
this mess was yours / now your mess is mine

The Boy has hoarder tendencies. Not of the magnitude that lands people on Oprah, but still -- the second bedroom in the house is appalling. In fact, *it* should be on Oprah -- it's that bad. (The rest of the house is not, and from what I understand, it's better for hoarders to have a proscribed space that's theirs, to muck up as they wish, as long as it doesn't spill into the rest of the house.)

The problem in this house is the utter lack of closets/built-in storage. There are 2 closets in the entire house. Two. One in each bedroom, and that's it. No linen closet, no front hall/coat closet, no random closet in a hallway somewhere -- none. And no built-in storage like shelving, etc.

So there's NO place to put things, except flat surfaces, like the dining-room table, and the desk, and the end tables, and and and.

I'd happily pay a declutterer to make sense of this house, and help us figure out our needs for storage so that we could build/buy shelving, etc.

Watching "Clean Sweep" on TLC is almost painful, especially when they have people who refuse to let things go.

But The Boy's biggest problem -- which goes with the hoarding tendencies -- is that he can't let go of stuff. He gets panicky and freaks out. I moved in about 14 months ago, and when I moved in, he put an old chair on the front porch because there was no room inside for it. And it sat there for over a year. He finally put it out to the trash last week.

That's the problem -- he can't just weed through a room (or a closet, or a pile of papers) and start tossing stuff. He has to get used to the idea of getting rid of stuff, and accept that "Maybe I'll use this one day" is never going to happen. And that? Apparently takes a long long LONG-ass time.

But progress does....progress. Very very very slowly. Glacially. Because the front porch is now cleaned off, for the first time in 14 months (and, in truth, longer than that, because it was chaotic even before I moved in).

I would do it so much faster, but it would make him lose it, and that's not worth it. We're getting there, but -- oh my god, so much slower than I ever imagined.


Laga - Feb 22, 2009 9:43:46 am PST #7403 of 30000
You should know I'm a big deal in the Resistance.

a delicious Spanish-style omelet... should reheat well, like a quiche, no?

I love tortilla espanola cold.

You guys are tickling my de-clutter bone. If it wasn't for The Oscars I'd get started tonight. Will there be a watch-n-post here in Natter?


flea - Feb 22, 2009 9:47:51 am PST #7404 of 30000
information libertarian

I would have an immaculate, clutter-free house if not the for the three other damn humans who live with me, and bring needless crap into the house, and take perfectly tidy things and strew them all over the place.

My current de-cluttering issue is I can't stand to throw things away, because hello, environment!, but it is incredible effort to usefully dispose of things, and sometimes near-impossible. I mean, I have two functional 35 mm cameras (point and shoot). What the hell am I supposed to do with stuff like that?

Also, we are still settling into this house (yes, we've been here 6 months, but children = no free time) and some stuff does not yet have its place, so it is clutter.


Theodosia - Feb 22, 2009 9:48:58 am PST #7405 of 30000
'we all walk this earth feeling we are frauds. The trick is to be grateful and hope the caper doesn't end any time soon"

I've never gotten much out of watching Clean Sweep, but I like How Clean Is Your House? very much. Occasionally some of their clients are certifiable, like the woman with 20 parrots flying free around her house, but most of them are nice people who've lost their way.


amych - Feb 22, 2009 9:51:10 am PST #7406 of 30000
Now let us crush something soft and watch it fountain blood. That is a girlish thing to want to do, yes?

My current de-cluttering issue is I can't stand to throw things away, because hello, environment!

This is me - aside from my general laziness and slobbishness, I mean. It's almost never the case that I don't want to get rid of things for emotional attachment reasons, or because I think there's any chance at all that I'll use them again. But getting rid of all the truly useless, can't find another home for it because who would want it, crap while knowing that it's going to end up in the landfill? HATE it.


Jessica - Feb 22, 2009 9:54:50 am PST #7407 of 30000
And then Ortus came and said "It's Ortin' time" and they all Orted off into the sunset

It's almost never the case that I don't want to get rid of things for emotional attachment reasons, or because I think there's any chance at all that I'll use them again. But getting rid of all the truly useless, can't find another home for it because who would want it, crap while knowing that it's going to end up in the landfill? HATE it.

This is so me. I'm great at getting rid of useless paper - straight into the shredder and from there to the recycling bin! But I could probably fill a U-Haul trailer with the amount of "don't throw that away, I'll put it on Craigslist/eBay/Freecycle!" crap I have lying around.


Sue - Feb 22, 2009 9:59:24 am PST #7408 of 30000
hip deep in pie

I invited a few people over to watch the Oscars tonight. Those who accepted have bailed. Which is both hugely irritating and a big relief at the same time. It's irritating because I already bought snacks and things for people and was all ready for guests. But it's a huge relief because the insulators I hired let me know yesterday that they want to come tomorrow at 8 AM to begin insulating my attic. The awards don't end until about 1AM my time, so not having guests until then will help me get some sleep.

Also, I'll get to watch and post here.