[link] Kitchen shot. There is now a fridge that faces the exit door.

...and I was raised all quaker and culturally aware and sensitive and shit, but the thing is? Fuck that shit when it comes down to girls' lives. I got lucky that my background is turn of the century irish immigrants who placed value on edu.(Gramma Tres got a math degree from Grinnel in the 20s.) It's complicated, I get that. You love your family. But I just don't get the sabotage.

Normally I'd be all, you need to go to the best school you get into. I don't think community college really counts, so how about CSU? Anyway, Bob's parents wouldn't let him go to Amherst or Williams or whatever, he went to University of Dayton, got a 4.0 and got into a top PhD program. It's possible, it's just harder.

last message before bed....

They want her to go to a "name-brand" school. She was told not to apply to any of the CSU system at all.

Again, boggled. Ah well.

Time for bed.

Well, I could follow, if not agree, up until that last bit. I t makes no sense.

sara, I really like your kitchen.

Kat, I don't know what to say. And I'm not sure I understood the whole story. But I think it's best that if L is 18, the choice should be hers as much as possible.

David, I hope all went well.

Now, getting ready to go and see my new born cousin, Noam. I'd add a smiling emoticon if I didn't hate them, but you get the mood.

Scruffy writer is sexy.

I hope so!

eta: David, I hope all went well.

It did!

They sold out an 80-seater for the movie. It was cool. I got a free beer and talked afterwards. Saw some friends from the world of Rock and Roll, and also a couple of JZ's friends from Faire came out. Also, I got an honorarium. Not in the range of pay-the-rent, but well more than gas-up-the-car.

Yay!

DavidS, honorarirum? Cool!

(It is hrd for me to spel honororororororarium.)

Shir, new born cousin? Also cool! Noam is an adorable name.

While not impossible, saying "Later, losers," and taking off at 18 can be difficult. If Kat's coworker goes to a community college for two years, she can save some money, make some connections and still probably transfer to UC Berkeley for her last two years. People do that sort of thing in NC all the time (usually for money reasons or to get their GPA up).

Kat, another argument for your student might be the state of the community colleges. My sister and husband are math and chemistry professors at Santa Monica, respectively. This past semester, my sister had 45 seats available in her Calculus section. On day 1, 44 of the 45 students signed up showed up, plus another 60+ asking to be added to the course. She got requests (and saw lots of begging and tears) for the next 2 weeks, but could only offer a lottery for the remaining seat. They anticipate things only getting worse with the economic downturn.