With enough booze, I can have the thing in a barn. Hey, I've been to a wedding in a barn! And there was an open bar, and it was made of awesome!

My bro's reception was in a barn (the ceremony was in the garden next to the barn): [link] [link] It was excellent.

Beautiful!

I have very strong ideas about what I'd like for a wedding, but I doubt that will ever be my reality - I'd like to be able to see the vision though in a movie or book or something. The stuff of the wedding seems less and less important to me as I get older.

I'm kind of amazed people have weddings. I mean, the same way I'm amazed that people ride roller coasters or go sky-diving.

I hear ya.

First wedding was fun for the guests. I had never thrown a big party and was very anxious about all the details, and my brand new MiL running around the reception alerting me to everything which she thought was "wrong" was not conducive to a nice evening. I know good music and good cake were higher on my planning list than my dress.

Second wedding was an elopement, which was fun for us. I also had a much better groom!

My boss has left for the day. How long do I need to stay here? too bad I took 2 hrs for lunch today.

Oooh, good music would DEFINITELY be important to me. In that I would want the wedding to be an awesome party. And good music is a huge part of that.

Good dress would be key in that pictures are a part of remembering a good party, and I would want to look awesome, so I would want clothes that make me look awesome. Etc etc.

I know a gay man and a lesbian who are married, but...they're really kinky freaky and I just don't even want to know. Except in how I already know too much (and they have plenty of sex with other people too. See "already know too much").

yeah, my brother knows a couple - woman identifies herself as a lesbian, man as a gay man, and they'll tell you they stayed together because the sex is so good. I just say huh alot when they come up in conversation, or the few times I've met them.

I know a couple like that too. Well, I know the wife, not the husband (as in, she's a old friend, he's the guy she married when she moved to NY). I've often wanted to ask her why she sees herself as a lesbian not bisexual but I have never had the nerve. I'm guessing it has to do with the fact that, for her, being a lesbian is her identity, and the actual sex of her sexual object is quite secondary to that. Whereas for me, being a woman would be how I'd define my identity.

I was just saying yesterday that I hope by the time I get married (if/when), dresses with sleeves are back in style.

It's in my closet.

While I don't think the dress would be the most important thing on my list by a mile, I'd certainly be open to doing what it took to get a dress in the style I like, even if it's not the perfect dress.

I knew a gay man/lesbian couple too. They never owned up to being gay, but since they were still sleeping with their own gender it didn't take too much math. The husband did give the wife an inscribed copy of Joy of Sex, and I always wish I hadn't read it.

The inscription, not the book.