The one human interaction dynamic that I struggle with the most is having to take care of other people when a) they are ostensibly taking care of me or b) I need to take are of myself.
This. How do you escape from this? We had to have a traditional southern funeral for my dad--he'd never met a stranger, and everybody wanted to come pay their respects. Mom was a wreck, and we just sat her in the corner and the condolers just flocked past her, patting and praying and telling stories. She was the center of attention and completely free, in fact encouraged and expected, to indulge her grief publicly.
I, on the other hand? People walked in the door, saw him in the coffin, saw her sobbing unrestrainedly, puddled up and started patting and pawing and platituding--at me. Which left me rubbing their hands or patting their backs, talking soothingly and ushering them toward Mom's entourage. It was years--years, before I was able to recall the man my dad had been, and finally mourn him. The circus surrounding his funeral did absolutely nothing to provide closure for me or to facilitate my grief. I hope it celebrated him in the memories of those casual mourners, because otherwise it was a complete waste of energy and time, for me.
We had a very small, very private memorial service for StE, only four of us, family. And we clung and supported each other, and didn't have to endure and help other people through their easy, social "sympathy."
Hi Calli! ::hangs on to hat::
I was having an anxiety attack, so I went and grabbed some lunch with a wise friend. I feel a little better and I'm going to work on the report in Powerpoint form. I may get asked to redo it, but at least I'll have something to show and a workable outline.
And a presentation that I could make.
another drug question: doc has me on codeine and i know from past experience that i do better with pain relief on vicodin than codeine. do i mention this or just go with what he says?
another drug question: doc has me on codeine and i know from past experience that i do better with pain relief on vicodin than codeine. do i mention this or just go with what he says?
Mention it. If there's some reason why vicodin wouldn't be a good choice for you right now, he'll tell you.
I'm glad you've found a workable approach to the report, smonster.
I grabbed some sushi with a couple of coworkers. Mmmmmm, eel.
Absolutely mention the preference. Not all people have prior experience so the doctor is just choosing his preference.
Absolutely mention the preference. Not all people have prior experience so the doctor is just choosing his preference.
Totally. I think that vicodin is stronger than codeine, and a lot of doctors are ridiculous when it comes to not prescribing stronger painkillers, because of the fear of creating/supporting addiction. So they start with ibuprofen, move to codeine, and you generally have to ask for -- or pass out from pain in front of them in order to be prescribed -- vicodin/percocet/similar.
But a reasonable doctor should be open to reasonable input from their patient.
(Which is to say, I think you're not exactly giving off the "I'm a junkie" vibe.)
(Which is to say, I think you're not exactly giving off the "I'm a junkie" vibe.)
Right. I have lots of vicodin at home from past dental ickiness that has been sitting there for months.
I have on stretchy hospital panties. I feel so hot right now.
Codeine makes me nauseous and icky feeling. Never had vidodin, but if I need a painkiller in the future I will be sure and let the doctor know. My son has the thing where he has an opposite reaction. Demerol makes him speedy and hyper. The doctor made it clear to always let doctors know that in advance to prescribing. Drugs = weird. Different stuff works differently with different people.
In other me news. I came home for lunch over 2 hours ago and haven't moved to return yet. Bad news is that General Hospital is a repeat so I can't be even more lazy. I really should go back if only to tell anyone left there to go home.
{{Beverly}} {{smonster}} Just because I want to hug ya both. And the rest of you for that matter.