Whang a saucepan at him?

Hee. But against my nature. Today a saucepan, tomorrow the steak knives. I have problems with escalation.

{{shir}}

{{shir}} I'm glad your great-uncle's passing was peaceful.

I wish I knew better ways of dealing with drama-lovers in the work place. that one supervisor that I sometimes complain about - she's a drama-lover. Her responses to residents' behaviors tend to whip them up more, and serve to increase behaviors. She has stated outright that my low-key responses are the same as not dealing with issues that absolutely have to be dealt with. Any suggestion that I make that getting flustered by their behaviors increases the behaviors is met with "I do not agree. I am not making things worse." And yet, I can accomplish with one or two simple prompts things she cannot get done with five minutes of lecturing.

I have seen her wait until a client has calmed down, then go and say, "Why are you so crabby? You need to stop being so crabby? Quit being so crabby! You have to stop! What is making you so crabby?" Without giving the person time to answer, regardless of the fact that the person does not have the verbal skills to answer.

I've started doing the blank response thing to her, but it only changes how she talks to me. I need a cluestick to use in preventing her from whipping the clients into a frenzy.

I'm skipping tons to get hairpats. I had a 4" fibroid removed yesterday. Still in hospital but doing alright (thank you morphine).

Shir and all others who need it, lots of ~ma.

Dh learned to fight from his family -- and they fought nasty. He kept tying to warn me /tell me that he could get really nasty in a fight -and my response was - and where would that get you? Stopped him dead the first time I said it. We don't fight a lot. Most of the time I know when one is coming.

and I hate the word 'work' paired with relationships. It doesn't fit . Seriously, if a relationship is a lot of,'work', why would you do it. There is lots to learn, but learning doesn't have to be work.

Oh, my, GC. I'm glad you're doing ok. Four inches seems pretty big, for something removed from the human body. I hope your recovery continues to go well.

Holy cow, GC! I'm glad that's no longer inside you! Hairpats all you want!

{{{glamcookie)))take care of yourself

I don't necessarily deal with drama queens at work, but I am on the receiving end of a giant chain of stress. Clients yell at the sales execs, sales execs yell at me, and I do my best to meet everyone's deadlines without passing that stress onto our vendors. I'm like a stress HEPA filter.