Oh, meara, that sucks.

Where are you in TX, omnis? crazyblinddate has Austin as one of its locations.

Speaking of...kind of...CBD just left from getting all of his stuff. I've moved on to feeling sorry for the poor guy. He looks terrible, and is really struggling. And he finally got what a huge support network I have, and it's actually hitting him in the gut. We both posted the news in LJ. I had like 16 responses in a short period of time. He got three total in two days. So, now he's questioning his friends as well as our relationship, and the last six months of his life, and yada yada yada.

He really wants to stay in touch. I said we'd see. Also, he really wants me to give his family the gifts I was making for them. He says that they would really love them, and they're really beautiful, and they know about them, and they might be hurt if they don't get them, but he'll understand if I have to make that decision.

Ugh. More wine.

Oh hon. Do what you feel is right, but I'm grinding my teeth over that entire last paragraph. (Well, next to last. I have no quibble with the wine.)

vw, you really are too good of a person, which is why you have so many friends.

Also, he really wants me to....

This is where you stop and say "What does vw want to do?" You are a very warm generous person, but it is up to YOU who you share that with. Not him.

Yeah, I'm brenda. Mostly because he told you you were too generous, to your detriment, yet he wants you to give the gifts to his family, which... well, hypocritical. I'm not trying to be mean to him, because god knows I can be hypocritical in my life, too - hypocritical happens. It's just... that's kind of head-explodey. OK, I'm probably not helping. I'm sorry. Just, you know, if you were thinking some of this, too, you're not alone!

And I echo billytea's lovely post from earlier.

Seriously? He tells you you need financial advice and that you give too many gifts and then he says a few days later you should still give his family gifts you made that you could sell otherwise? SERIOUSLY? I'm sorry, but no. Grr.

ETA: x-posty with Jen.

But, didn't you know, the fact that I'm a considerate person is what he loves most about me.

It is head-explodey. It really, really is.

Oh, but I'm eating a ham and cheese sandwich, and for lunch I had a pulled pork sandwich. I imagine in a few days I will get caught up on all the pork (except for bacon) that I've missed out on in the last six months. Goodness, pork is YUM.

I'm with everyone else--sucks to be his family, but they can eat it. No one should *expect* gifts from an ex-girlfriend. Hell, no one should really expect gifts from their kid's girlfriend of only six months, especially one who is struggling financially. Ass 'em in the ear. And kick him and his stupid guilt trip in the ass. Because that's what it is. And if you had a present for him, I sure as HELL hope you didn't give it to him to be nice.

Well, he did insist that I keep my Christmas present (which is actually a really nice, fairly expensive piece of cookware from Williams and Sonoma), so I'm probably going to send him one of his gifts, since it's almost finished. But, I told him I wasn't going to do his big gift, because I haven't started making it yet, and I just don't have the heart to do it any more.