What's the likelihood of getting her to change her mind back?
(I'm guessing, since your mother sounds a lot like mine, not high, but I'm tossing it out there, just in case...)
A year and a half ago, I could have eviscerated him with my thoughts. Now I can barely hurt his feelings. Things used to be so much simpler.
Anya ,'Dirty Girls'
Spike's Bitches 43: Who am I kidding? I love to brag.
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Barb - Nov 17, 2008 9:38:55 am PST #1554 of 10000
“Not dead yet!”
WindSparrow - Nov 17, 2008 9:42:48 am PST #1555 of 10000
Love is stronger than death and harder than sorrow. Those who practice it are fierce like the light of stars traveling eons to pierce the night.
It would be shitty of me to volunteer to make desserts so that she can't try to get me to come over and help wouldn't it?
Volunteering for the bits that are within your own preferences is a time-honored way of controlling the damage that others' plans can cause us. Go for it!
Shir - Nov 17, 2008 9:43:39 am PST #1556 of 10000
"And that's why God Almighty gave us fire insurance and the public defender".
Matt. I'm so, so sorry. This is horrible. All the ~mas in the world for you and your family.
Shir - Nov 17, 2008 9:44:20 am PST #1557 of 10000
"And that's why God Almighty gave us fire insurance and the public defender".
And "deserves a different post" post:
Happy birthday, Jilli! Woot!
Cashmere - Nov 17, 2008 9:47:19 am PST #1558 of 10000
Now tagless for your comfort.
Happy Birthday, Jilli!!!
Connie Neil - Nov 17, 2008 9:47:27 am PST #1559 of 10000
brillig
It's almost a relief to have no elder relatives around to appease at holiday time, but it's also weird to be in the top tier of the living ancestral hierarchy. Sort of like the knot that holds several threads together has been cut off, and now the various branches are flailing around looking for commonality. The common bond of siblinghood isn't the same thing as all of us focusing on a parent.
I wonder if my sisters had the same "So now I'm an orphan" thought when our mother died. Which is a bit selfindulgently overdramatic for a 47-year-old who hadn't even spoken to her surviving parent in years.
DavidS - Nov 17, 2008 9:50:32 am PST #1560 of 10000
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."
Condolences to Matt and Bev.
Happy Birthday to Jilli!
And a round of salty snacks for my friends.
Vortex - Nov 17, 2008 9:50:55 am PST #1561 of 10000
"Cry havoc and let slip the boobs of war!" -- Miracleman
Volunteering for the bits that are within your own preferences is a time-honored way of controlling the damage that others' plans can cause us. Go for it!
yeah, I'd also live in fear of her frantic 11PM call.
Trudy Booth - Nov 17, 2008 9:50:57 am PST #1562 of 10000
Greece's financial crisis threatens to take down all of Western civilization - a civilization they themselves founded. A rather tragic irony - which is something they also invented. - Jon Stewart
Happy Birthday Jilli!!!
I wish you bats and cotton candy all year long.
Vortex - Nov 17, 2008 9:52:58 am PST #1563 of 10000
"Cry havoc and let slip the boobs of war!" -- Miracleman
I wonder if my sisters had the same "So now I'm an orphan" thought when our mother died. Which is a bit selfindulgently overdramatic for a 47-year-old who hadn't even spoken to her surviving parent in years.
nope, not overdramatic at all. Even if you don't talk to them, parents and your feelings (or lack thereof) for them hold tremendous sway over our lives.