The "unthreatening" notion has never sat well with me. Do we mean we think he's not a mugger? Or that sex is a threat?
Well, yes - I mean, I have more than my share of sexual hangups, so this may be a moment when I realise what I total freak I am, but I'd have that for a lot of girls who are hitting puberty, the idea of sex is threatening/scary/intimidating on a whole host of levels. For one thing, when they're kids, the boys aren't usually that much bigger and stronger than girls.
Power balance - both physical and psychological - is surely a huge thing when it comes to sex? There are actors and fictional characters whose appeal is tied up with their
potential
for wreaking (sexual) violence. (Certainly if the cover art I keep seeing on SBTB is anything to go by!) And then there are the ones whose attraction is tied up with their vulnerability and breakability and all that jazz.
Of course, I could could be confused because I've always want to fuck the twinks.
Fair point...I amend my assessment of Z.E.'s appeal to encompass that whole clean-cut vanilla thing. It's like Teflon. Or a Ken-doll. Or - oh, I don't know.
Dull,
really.
Which isn't to say the guy himself is any of these things - just that from what little I've seen of him image-wise, that seems to be what they're going for.
requesting some job~ma for Tom, he has an interview this morning at 10am...
Job~ma, Tom.
And here is how mighty the gronk is: I just spent several seconds trying to remember where the ~ key was.
Lots of job~ma for Tom! Also sending my motivation, since I don't seem to be using it this morning.
Dental ~ma for Shir and BUCKETS of job ~ma for Tom.
And a happy (or at the very least, uneventful) Hump Day to all.
Job~ma!
I need help. I need to go to work and I can't think of anything to put on my body.
Dental ~ma for Shir and job ~ma for Tom.
How is Lucy doing, Brenda?
I don't know if the link will work, but huge amounts of snow pictures from the parental units, including video of my sister's dog loving the snow fall. (Otter Lake, NY) [link]
Well, yes - I mean, I have more than my share of sexual hangups, so this may be a moment when I realise what I total freak I am, but I'd have that for a lot of girls who are hitting puberty, the idea of sex is threatening/scary/intimidating on a whole host of levels. For one thing, when they're kids, the boys aren't usually that much bigger and stronger than girls.
Power balance - both physical and psychological - is surely a huge thing when it comes to sex? There are actors and fictional characters whose appeal is tied up with their potential for wreaking (sexual) violence. (Certainly if the cover art I keep seeing on SBTB is anything to go by!) And then there are the ones whose attraction is tied up with their vulnerability and breakability and all that jazz.
I get that, but I still don't see how it quite jibes with the "girls attracted to nonthreatening boys" thing.
When you're attracted to someone you want to touch them (I'm using "touch" because when I was 12, 13, 14 I didn't want to
fuck
the twinks so much as kiss them and sit next to them and marry them). Other girls wanted to touch big jocky boys or that one guy in the eighth grade who'd managed a mustache. Were they more "threatening" because they were more stereotypically macho? Were those girls less hung-up and me more hung-up? Did I eventually "grow up" and get over the arty boys? I don't think so.
I think the whole "nonthreatening" concept has more to do with notions that macho guys are
real
guys and fem guys aren't. And women who like the latter don't like
real
guys, they like some watered-down version that won't threaten them.
I remember when Titanic was all that and females of all ages were squeeing over Leonardo diCaprio. I remember SO many guys (radio particularly) saying, "But WHY? He's such a FAG." Really? Because he has sex with women. And aaaaallll these women are finding him more attractive than you.
