Mal ,'Serenity'
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
I think any death of a close loved one is always with you
Yes. It does get easier with time, but the loss is always there. It's been 23 years since we lost my dad. An elderly co-worker gave me a jigsaw puzzle of jellybeans and told me that by the time I finished it the worst part would be over. It was a distraction, and he was right. Now the completed puzzle is another reminder, but at this point references to Dad always bring a smile. Teary part did eventually pass.
Somebody here (Cindy? Scrappy? I have it on my other computer) described it as having a big hole open up in your life, and over time you do some landscaping and you put up some railings and you're not as likely to go tumbling down it all unawares all the time, but at the end of the day there's still a big fucking hole.
I think it's hitting me harder lately because our sister is getting married on the 11th.
Anyway...
I think my point was that however you're handling it is the way you're handling it, and is right for you, and if there's anything any of us can do for you, be it let you rant against people who say or do stupid or thoughtless things, let you bounce stuff off of us, or just be around if you need to talk about things, we're here.
An elderly co-worker gave me a jigsaw puzzle of jellybeans and told me that by the time I finished it the worst part would be over.
That's sort of beautiful.
I always think of it as relearning how to live. You never get over it, you just sort of get used to a world that is missing something vital.
And am in fact doing so now, so I'm gonna stop.
sorry, love. Big hug. And if my boss stops being such an asshat (yeah, right), hopefully I'll be in Houston to do it in person.
Big hugs to Vortex and Daisy.
On another (hopefully not insensitive) note, Tom is out of his interview and he felt very positive about it and feels good about how he presented himself and communicated with the team. Sigh. I really hope he gets this one, it will be a tough blow to recover from if it doesn't work out.
Thanks for the ~ma, now just direct it as you-love-Tom~ma to the hiring manager/team.
Yay on feeling good about the interview! Continued -ma on the job itself!
Re-directs ~ma to thems that need to see that Tom's the dude.
Also, Nora - insent.
I have a 2nd interview! The first was a phone 'view. It's an Education and Outreach position with the city's sexual assault organization. I think I'd be v. good at it.