I'm so sorry, Vortex.
Yes! Ohmigod! Someone's blondie bear's a twenty-question genius!
Harmony ,'Help'
Spike's Bitches 42: Which question do you want me to answer first?
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
Calli - Aug 31, 2008 2:15:15 pm PDT #3885 of 10001
I must obey the inscrutable exhortations of my soul—Calvin and Hobbs
Connie Neil - Aug 31, 2008 2:23:53 pm PDT #3886 of 10001
brillig
she'll poke at whoever seems to be a threat
Sounds like she thinks you're prettier than she is. That's a plus.
Steph L. - Aug 31, 2008 2:31:28 pm PDT #3887 of 10001
I look more rad than Lutheranism
she'll poke at whoever seems to be a threat
Sounds like she thinks you're prettier than she is.
It's like Snow White's stepmother sending her off in the woods.
That's a plus.
You know what? It's not. For most of my life, I would have thought so. But however I came by this hard-won mental health, I don't actually think that my mom thinking I'm prettier than she is is a plus. Because I don't think it's a competition. Anymore.
Tom Scola - Aug 31, 2008 2:41:19 pm PDT #3888 of 10001
Remember that the frontier of the Rebellion is everywhere. And even the smallest act of insurrection pushes our lines forward.
Steph is my hero.
Fay - Aug 31, 2008 2:51:10 pm PDT #3889 of 10001
"Fuck Western ideologically-motivated gender identification!" Sulu gasped, and came.
Tep, that does sound like a shitty day, and I'm petty enough to kind of want you to have retaliated with the "old" dig - but I'm glad for you that you're in a place where you're more mature and compassionate than that.
Your mother does sound disconcertingly like Anne Eliot's dad, from Persuasion.
I like the thought that you're the heroine of your own Austen novel.
Steph L. - Aug 31, 2008 2:51:44 pm PDT #3890 of 10001
I look more rad than Lutheranism
Scola, you're way prettier than me.
Okay, joking aside (though you *are* a handsome devil), you'll get there. I *know* it.
Also, let me point out that being spun hard by parental bullshit is NOT proof that a person has made no progress, mental-health-wise. (Though I'm still insane.) It's just proof that the parent or parents are being JACK.ASSES.
Cashmere - Aug 31, 2008 2:53:49 pm PDT #3891 of 10001
Now tagless for your comfort.
As fucked up as my family is, I am so glad they have been loving and supportive of me all my life. Even when I was fucked up and not very good to them, they were there for me. My folks may not have agreed with all my beliefs and decisions but they backed me no matter what.
They are proud of me and my kids and think I'm smart, pretty and funny and remind me when I forget.
The buffistas are like that. And it's what makes me happy to be part of this community.
Steph L. - Aug 31, 2008 2:53:52 pm PDT #3892 of 10001
I look more rad than Lutheranism
I'm petty enough to kind of want you to have retaliated with the "old" dig
I'm not saying I wouldn't, ever; just that I didn't, last night. I know myself well enough to know that I'd do it if she got nasty enough. I may have gained some mental health and ability to recognize my mom's bullshit and walk away from it, but I'm no saint. And when I'm cornered, I fight dirty.
Hell, *she's* the one who taught me how to fight dirty; she should expect it.
Your mother does sound disconcertingly like Anne Eliot's dad, from Persuasion.
She is, almost 100%, Lila Wingo from The Prince of Tides. I can't stress enough that, when it sounds like I'm exaggerating about my mom, I'm really, REALLY not.
beth b - Aug 31, 2008 3:31:35 pm PDT #3893 of 10001
oh joy! Oh Rapture ! I have a brain!
Also, let me point out that being spun hard by parental bullshit is NOT proof that a person has made no progress, mental-health-wise. (Though I'm still insane.) It's just proof that the parent or parents are being JACK.ASSES.
you said it yourself better than I could have.
As far as the boy ...well he does occasionally step in it.
and while I haven't met your mom, I believe you. While it is not my personal experience, it is true that sometimes what you learn from a parent is what not to be. And as far as I can see that pain doesn't go away.
beekaytee - Aug 31, 2008 3:41:20 pm PDT #3894 of 10001
Compassionately intolerant
Oh god, given where I come from, I never assume exaggeration when people talk about their parents. Besides, it's all relative. Each person's pain varies!