Basically, I can't be around large groups of people for more than a couple of hours (and even that is very taxing). And it's NOT just you guys; it's *any* large group. What sucks heavily is that I *want* to be around Buffistas; other groups, NSM.
I feel very much the same way (and also dealt at one stage with a friend who thought that introverts were just being selfish. And ungodly, as this was in the FAC). Especially if I don't have personal space. I'll usually wind up retreating into the bathroom for at least ten minutes or so at some stage at parties. Open air is good too, as long as I can get away from the people.
One of the things with Wallybee is that being with her, for the most part, recharges me. It's like, she doesn't intrude on my personal space, she is my personal space.
One of the things with Wallybee is that being with her, for the most part, recharges me. It's like, she doesn't intrude on my personal space, she is my personal space.
Ohhh. That's perfectly wonderful, BT. You're very lucky to have found her.
applauds Teppy
Yes! This! And what Beverly said also!
Honestly, I had a good friend visiting from home for a fortnight, and I love her and respect her, and I sincerely enjoyed her company the whole time (she's hella clever, and both of us are inclined to lie around reading books and drinking coffee peacefully, when not eating yummy food and having discussions about Big Important Things, and we laughed a lot), but after she flew home I spent a week curled up in my apartment with the cat, with my mobile phone switched off, and only ventured out for new books and more food.
I don't like this about me, because I'm very capable of speaking to nobody for days at a time (weeks, even), and losing myself in books and online discussions and DVDs - and I know that I should be getting exercise instead, and engaging with life better. But - this is me. I
am
quite sociable and outgoing, sincerely - but I'm also very fond of recharging time with just my own company. This is the first time I've lived alone - I think that I'm probably better living with someone else, actually, because that counterbalances the whole stay-in-coccoon tendency I have.
Anyway, yes - dropped off the face of the map for a week. And I seem to have lost the friendship of one of my friends as a result - it honestly didn't occur to me that I was being selfish, but I see now that I was. She's been having a hard time and doesn't want to have to chase around after someone begging them to be her friend - and I understand that, and I don't blame her at all. I'm slightly gutted to realise how crap I am at that whole dealing-with-people thing, though, and sad that I seem to have carelessly discarded a friendship I value a lot. But I respect her need for space, and I don't want to be a source of headfuckery.
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Crumbs, I forgot to mention how lovely this is:
One of the things with Wallybee is that being with her, for the most part, recharges me. It's like, she doesn't intrude on my personal space, she is my personal space.
Mate, I am so very happy for you. When I think back to how hard you tried to keep your previous marriage together, and how very sad your posts were as things snowballed, I'm just
thrilled
that things unfolded this way for you. That's just so bloody cool.
One of the things with Wallybee is that being with her, for the most part, recharges me. It's like, she doesn't intrude on my personal space, she is my personal space.
Aw heck, that's pulling at my romantic strings. I want me some of that... not your Wallybee, per se, but my own... oh hell you know what I mean.
With that, I should really go to bed.
Mate, I am so very happy for you. When I think back to how hard you tried to keep your previous marriage together, and how very sad your posts were as things snowballed, I'm just thrilled that things unfolded this way for you. That's just so bloody cool.
Yeah, I feel very lucky. I really couldn't ask for better.
Aw heck, that's pulling at my romantic strings. I want me some of that... not your Wallybee, per se, but my own... oh hell you know what I mean.
t takes up defensive position around Wallybee
Oh! That reminds me, my Singapore trip, a very cool thing: I got to the bird park (the journey was a touch draining, but it included a Dali sculpture, so there's that), and the ostrich couple had eggs! The female stayed with them, while the male took up an aggressive posture right in front of me! Seriously, if I'd leant over the guard rail even a foot or so I reckon he could've (and would've, certainly) taken a swipe at me! How awesome was that?
what? He didn't? That flippin ostrich owes me my $10 back.
Yes, I'm a big introvert as well. My last roommate was also one, and didn't mind at all that I'd spend entire weekends in my room with a book or computer, because odds are she was doing the same thing in her room. Perfect roomie! We shared living spaces for 8 years, because neither of us could afford a place of our own, and any other roommate might expect us to interact on a regular basis. Plus, BFF and all that.
I'm also fairly introverted. My best times at the SF2F were when I was off with smaller groups. Prom was fun for a little while, but I did elect to leave the festivities a little earlier.
My first F2F was the DC one, and that was wonderful, because I could retreat to the shelter of my own house at the end of the day. I had wonderful houseguests (Sean and the Miracleborns for the first night, askye for one night, Beverly for the weekend), so when I was back at the house I had good company in numbers I could handle.
Gronk. In line for security. Er, through security now. There was a little girl ahead of me in line with the new sparkly vampire book. I'm glad I was too tired to make a snarky comment. That wouldn't be nice.
