(As to why she got back together with him, I believe we've already established that we have friends who have no sense about men.)

And mothers. Don't forget mothers.

{{{Hil}}}, you're me in this. Or I'm you. And I still don't have the planny thing down -- it's not just you, and they can't all do it.

For what it's worth, I think you can do it. But until then, you've got all the sympathy I can throw your way.

Thanks, amych.

It's just all kinds of little things adding up lately. My desk is a perpetual mess. No matter how hard I try, I just can't keep track of deadlines and appointments. And lately, I just can't sit still and work -- I'm getting up constantly, and I'm way more distractable than usual. (I think this last one might be a meds issue, or even an eyesight issue -- it's happened before when I needed new glasses, and the not focusing was literally not being able to focus my eyes for too long. I need to remember to make an appointment with the eye doctor.)

A friend's ex, who dumped her the first time by telling her he was marrying someone else and then who looked her up 25 years later and then dumped her again, wanted to friend me on LinkedIn. Uh, no.

Was it Barb's dad?

I know this won't be terribly helpful to you, but the planning/organization thing only started to click with me recently.

Like within the last few years.

Hil, I plan and organize for a living and can't organize myself out of a paper bag. I've just recently, at 35, taken some control over my money. I bet some of the people you think of as organized are just feeling the same way you are-- and you've done great so far. i know you can make it until the end!

I have just accepted that I am not a plann-y/organize-y type of person. I CAN do it, but only through lots of concentration. Pete is the hyper-planning type, tho'.

Oh, God, I just want to hug the stuffing out of you.

JZ said what I'm feeling.

I feel like I should have learned things like planning and organization by now. Everyone else seems to be able to do it, and I just can't.

I am living proof that you can write a dissertation with very little in the way of planning and organizational skills. Esp the latter, I am truly disorganized. (I am also deeply lazy.)

You WILL finish it, it just feels impossible right now.

Pete is the hyper-planning type, tho'.o

I kept hoping I would meet a Pete, but I keep meeting people who need me to organize them! So I now have to sort of organize myself! My old boss met an organizy type when she was fifty, though, so I guess it is not too late for me!

Oh, God, I just want to hug the stuffing out of you.

JZ said what I'm feeling.

You save yours up too. I'll collect it as soon as I can.