My rule of thumb for work appropriateness (going out is a whole 'nother story) is, "Would I wear this in front of my over-protective, football coach, all-men-are-punks dad?"

And, even with work appropriate (or work mandated uniforms), things can go wrong. When I was teaching I had to wear my dress whites. If I sat on the stoop behind the podium in profile, I had to make sure I sat the right direction or the students could see right inside my shirt because the spacing of the buttons made a little gap. Even in the right size shirt. Not that anyone complained, mind you, we're talking all male students (99% of the time, anyway.) My supervisor had to point it out to me and let me tell you, I was very embarassed because one of my jobs was also to teach the sexual harrassment seminars. Needless to say, I started incorporating the example into my seminars.

Please, please be careful about saying women need to put away their breasts at work. I realize what was probably meant was women who wear extremely low cut blouses to work, but as someone with very large boobs who has been, and been made to be very self conscious about them pretty much my whole life, it stings a bit. Even in what I'm wearing today (wrap shirt with camisole) I look totally boobtastic, but if I cover up any more, I have uni-boob which, frankly makes me look frumpy and fat.

I am so sorry- I wasn't thinking of the ramifications of what I said-- really it is the extremely low cutness of the clothing that I feel is inappropriate for the particular place we work, not the boobs! In fact, some of my irritation with these particular people is that I am pretty sure if I (as a larger breasted person) wore the same outfits, I would be talked to. This is more a case of young people not knowing what is appropriate work wear and needing to be guided than a large breast issue.

I am so sorry- I wasn't thinking of the ramifications of what I said-- really it is the extremely low cutness of the clothing that I feel is inappropriate for the particular place we work, not the boobs! In fact, some of my irritation with these particular people is that I am pretty sure if I (as a larger breasted person) wore the same outfits, I would be talked to. This is more a case of young people not knowing what is appropriate work wear and needing to be guided than a large breast issue.

I figured that's what you meant. You've never come across as Judgy McJudgerson, so I assumed you were talking about actual inappropriateness. It's totally my button.

Thanks- But I did say it badly trying to be funny and failed, so again, I apologize.

I figured that's what you meant. You've never come across as Judgy McJudgerson, so I assumed you were talking about actual inappropriateness. It's totally my button.

Again, I echo what DJ says. I'm feeling particularly boobful today too.

What are people doing this weekend?

I have to say, as someone who has always been on the flat side, I never quite get why busty women complain about being busty. It seems like a blonde complaining about being singled out for being "too pretty."

It's not so much the jokes in high school--honestly who didn't get teased in high school? Guys I think are assholes asking me how my bra stays on? Whatever. I can rise above that. Being told earnestly by guys who dated me that I was "pretty" despite my chest size? That frankly hurt the ego a lot more. As did the folks who thought I was either "brave" or a militant feminist for never even considering getting a boob job.

Eh. I'm not sure I even have a point, except that there's some corners of the world where having big breasts seems like the ideal.

What are people doing this weekend?

Saturday: unknown. Probably some combination of writing mixed with running around in circles on the field with Matilda.

Sunday: Cookout to celebrate Emmett's all-star season. (The following Sunday is the parade.)

What are people doing this weekend?

L.A. baby!!!