That seems kind of cruel. I mean, why not tell her he's out at the chip shop or something? I ask this honestly, as someone with no personal experience of dementia. Is it wrong to lie to people if it makes them feel better?
I just think you're freakin' out 'cause you have to fight someone prettier than you.
Dawn ,'The Killer In Me'
Natter 60: Gone In 60 Seconds
Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.
flea - Aug 27, 2008 10:32:15 am PDT #5660 of 10003
information libertarian
DavidS - Aug 27, 2008 10:33:26 am PDT #5661 of 10003
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."
You win.
Emmett shares his birthday with John Coltrane, Ray Charles and Bruce Springsteen.
Curious that both Reagan and Thatcher had dementia.
Barb - Aug 27, 2008 10:35:23 am PDT #5662 of 10003
“Not dead yet!”
Emmett shares his birthday with John Coltrane, Ray Charles and Bruce Springsteen.
Dude. Emmett's got an impressive birthday.
Trudy Booth - Aug 27, 2008 10:37:55 am PDT #5663 of 10003
Greece's financial crisis threatens to take down all of Western civilization - a civilization they themselves founded. A rather tragic irony - which is something they also invented. - Jon Stewart
That seems kind of cruel. I mean, why not tell her he's out at the chip shop or something? I ask this honestly, as someone with no personal experience of dementia. Is it wrong to lie to people if it makes them feel better?
Maybe it depends on how long she remembers things? The 'chip shop' story isn't going to hold up for long. Though I suppose you could go with 'business trip' if she retains things for a couple of days.
Though I can see how it could be an ethical question.
For the record (should the time come) lie to me.
tommyrot - Aug 27, 2008 10:39:02 am PDT #5664 of 10003
Sir, it's not an offence to let your cat eat your bacon. Okay? And we don't arrest cats, I'm very sorry.
For the record (should the time come) lie to me.
Trudy, your husband is at the chip shop.
DavidS - Aug 27, 2008 10:39:11 am PDT #5665 of 10003
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."
Dude. Emmett's got an impressive birthday.
You'd think I'd invest in music lessons, right?
Trudy Booth - Aug 27, 2008 10:41:15 am PDT #5666 of 10003
Greece's financial crisis threatens to take down all of Western civilization - a civilization they themselves founded. A rather tragic irony - which is something they also invented. - Jon Stewart
Trudy, your husband is at the chip shop.
George Clooney always did like his chips.
DavidS - Aug 27, 2008 10:42:03 am PDT #5667 of 10003
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."
When my mom was terminally ill we had to discuss whether we should tell her. She was still fully cognizant though incapacitated.
Telling her was one of the hardest things I've done. Her reaction was horribly sad and upsetting. But, ultimately, I think it did allow her to let go and just allow herself to be loved by us in her last days.
juliana - Aug 27, 2008 10:42:34 am PDT #5668 of 10003
I’d be lying if I didn’t say that I miss them all tonight…
For the record (should the time come) lie to me.
"Yes, it's terribly simple. The good guys are always stalwart and true, the bad guys are easily distinguished by their pointy horns or black hats, and, uh, we always defeat them and save the day. No one ever dies, and everybody lives happily ever after."
"Also, Ray Toro isn't married."
Trudy Booth - Aug 27, 2008 10:43:08 am PDT #5669 of 10003
Greece's financial crisis threatens to take down all of Western civilization - a civilization they themselves founded. A rather tragic irony - which is something they also invented. - Jon Stewart
Oh, if I'm fully cognizant tell me stuff.
(I'm sure internet posting board discussions are legally binding)