GG, don't do it. If only for the following reason:

The other week, I got a friend request from a Most Unpleasant Ex. And I got such amazing pleasure from the thought that he was pathetically trying to reestablish some sort of friendship 10 years later, while I laughed lustily at the wormitude and hit "ignore". Do you really want him to think you're the pathetic one in the reverse situation?

True. In the end I don't want to go to that dark place. It was just the reality of actually seeing a photo of him and the thought that finally I could have my say. He isn't worth it.

I do not want to be seen as pathetic. I've worked too hard to move past him and to attain things he only dreamed of. He isn't worth my time and hasn't been for a very long time.

Thanks for talking me down.

Exactly! And no problem.

Also, if it makes a difference, I am regretting friending back my not-ex, but bi-sexual love of my high school/college years who I started a theatre with and I did all the work and he did all the glory somewhat assholic friend who is now seems to be in a loving relationship with a man who is supporting him and their child in the life to which they have been acustomed while he does (probably bad) theatre. I am finding it hard to hang on to the anger because their kid is sooo cute! And perhaps he is not an asshole anymore, but I sort of suspect, knowing him and his repeated attempts to contact me lately, that he really wants attention and still can't fathom why I woke up one day and realized he was an asshole who took all the credit for my work.

If he finds me and friends me, I'll cross that situation then. He was an flaming jerk back then and I was totally broken-hearted when he left. It was the shock that I actually saw him on facebook. I'm not even the same person I was back then.

Yeesh, I'm glad that nobody problematic has searched me out on facebook. So far I've been enjoying the contact with people from my past.

I did find some people from high school, which is great. I hope to find some other people as well. If any Buffistas want to connect, that would be amazing, too.

There's buffistas there too, but I find it much easier to keep in touch here.

There's buffistas there too, but I find it much easier to keep in touch here.

I also found some really fun people I was so happy to reconnect with. And this actually inspired me to send asshole a nice note, because frankly, at this point, a lot of the asshole issues are my lingering ones about ALWAYS working with people who let me do the work and take the credit/don't appreciate me, and he probably doesn't deserve half the anger I have toward him for things he did while under the age of 24!

There is a buffistas group, although I don't know how to tell you to find it-- I just sort of randomly did, and then ended up with buffista friends.

The weirdest thing for me, which may happen to you to, is finding Buffistas with friends that I knew from college/theatre because they are also theatre people. It has happened twice and is interesting in a worlds collide kind of way.