It seems that a lot of people work on the assumption that money/things=class. It irks me, because it does leave out the issues of education, manners, etc. I've seen things where some lout in a Mercedes is presented as being upper class, while a college professor on a bicycle isn't. I grew up being taught that it was tacky to flaunt money and things, that you bought "quality" and kept it forever. I think it may stem from an old-fashioned sense of priorities, whereas these days going broke to buy status symbols is seen as the thing to do.

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Conspicuous consumption, this research suggests, is not an unambiguous signal of personal affluence. It’s a sign of belonging to a relatively poor group. Visible luxury thus serves less to establish the owner’s positive status as affluent than to fend off the negative perception that the owner is poor. The richer a society or peer group, the less important visible spending becomes.

I grew up being taught that it was tacky to flaunt money and things, that you bought "quality" and kept it forever.

This is the key difference between old money and new money.

When I was living on the Eastern Shore I bought an old Oriental carpet from the professor of archeology. He apologized for the condition because it looks worn (which is why it was so affordable) and I was like: Why would I want a carpet that looks new? I want it to look like it's been in my family forever. 'Cause I'm an old money snob, even if I don't have any.

I was so stunned the first time I went by Phillips as a kid and saw all the kids there were dressed like bums. I was like, "I thought they were rich!" My mother was like, yeah, that's how rich kids dress.

I went by Phillips as a kid

Jesse, your old money is showing. I'm assuming Andover, not Exeter.

I'm an old money snob, even if I don't have any.

This is so me it's not even funny.

(You hear that, universe? Our car has 200K+ on it because we are that awesome!)

Jesse, your old money is showing. I'm assuming Andover, not Exeter.

Please. Of course.

Actually, it's just my Massachusetts upbringing -- My mother worked in Andover for most of my childhood, so I didn't know there was another PA for a long time. I have mostly only heard of the prep schools on that list via proximity -- I went to summer camp in Groton, etc.

And, in my family, tacky was one of the worst things you could say about someone (trashy was worse, but that had to be earned).

How do the old money handle the new tech? Because that could be a deal-breaker for me.

Can you people either a) remind me to job-hunt this evening or b) find me a job this evening? I have just over a month to go.

How do the old money handle the new tech? Because that could be a deal-breaker for me.

I think as long as you have a cave big enough to fit it all into, you're good.