Good luck, Teppy. I hope you don't have to make any tough decisions and the kid comes back, gets his pets and lives happily ever after.
Friend needs to spay the cat. Period. I'd be willing to donate to that fund.
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Cashmere - Jun 02, 2008 6:21:01 pm PDT #1659 of 10001
Now tagless for your comfort.
megan walker - Jun 02, 2008 6:22:37 pm PDT #1660 of 10001
"What kind of magical sunshine and lollipop world do you live in? Because you need to be medicated."-SFist
Friend is not deliberately taking advantage, in a malicious way; he just has no structure whatsoever to his life. And that's fine, until his lack of structure fucks up MY structured life. He's thoughtless in a can-think-only-about-himself way, not a how-can-I-screw-my friend way, although the upshot is essentially the same -- because he's thoughtless and has arranged his life so as to have very little responsibility, it's led to problems following in his wake, which he leaves for other people to clean up. Which I have a sinking suspicion is going to happen here.
Might I suggest the book Boundaries?
Because facilitating this guy's irresponsible behavior may not actually be a kind-hearted thing.
Steph L. - Jun 02, 2008 6:27:05 pm PDT #1661 of 10001
I look more rad than Lutheranism
Friend needs to spay the cat. Period. I'd be willing to donate to that fund.
Cat is spayed. The Boy paid to have the cat spayed back when Friend left it with The Boy for a year.
Might I suggest the book Boundaries?
Because facilitating this guy's irresponsible behavior may not actually be a kind-hearted thing.
I'm right there with you. But it's not my call, unfortunately. And The Boy won't turn down his ex's son. The Boy seems to think it'll all be fine. And who knows? Maybe it will be. But Friend just doesn't have the best track record.
I should stop talking about this, because it's just getting me more and more annoyed.
Cashmere - Jun 02, 2008 6:33:36 pm PDT #1662 of 10001
Now tagless for your comfort.
Cat is spayed. The Boy paid to have the cat spayed back when Friend left it with The Boy for a year.
Whew. I do hope it works out with little stress for you, Tep.
meara - Jun 02, 2008 7:11:35 pm PDT #1663 of 10001
as long as there is running water and the windows close, they'll be fine.
Well, and I figure if someone breaks in, they probably break a window or door, and you have to like, board that up or something. Drama and problems.
omnis_audis - Jun 02, 2008 7:16:19 pm PDT #1664 of 10001
omnis, pursue. That's an order from a shy woman who can use M-16. - Shir
{{{{ASKYE}}}} I've never done this, but I saw it on CSI, so it must be true. Sounds like if spawn-dude is there, mix him a drink and squirt visine into it. According to CSI, it gives ya the shits something fierce. It might keep him occupied. What? I'm not bad! I'm just drawn that way.
It seems to be really fashionable to hate LA or to say it’s a terrible place to live, so it’s really nice to hear someone not from here say it could be home, even if it isn’t your first choice.My family was raised to think LA was "Lousy Angeles". I've found it quite the opposite. It has it's quirks, but so what. I do love the weather. And the easy to find international food flavors. And the Getty!
beth b - Jun 02, 2008 7:22:56 pm PDT #1665 of 10001
oh joy! Oh Rapture ! I have a brain!
I might investigate a kennel. - 10 days is the plan - disaster / delay getting home add 5 days - then think about 10 days in a kennel - to be the over generous friend - and give everyone time to come up with a plan. You might want to let yourself be 'talked into' this plan if things come up
But honestly, it is not likely to happen that the house gets that hurt
Breathe
Steph L. - Jun 02, 2008 7:23:10 pm PDT #1666 of 10001
I look more rad than Lutheranism
Zoo update: we now have 1 mightily freaked-out Guest Cat (who, oddly enough, refuses to hide and is sitting on the comfy chair but keeps yowling and hissing; I left her cat carrier open so that if she needs to retreat into it she can); 2 pissed-off resident cats, who have retreated to either the office or the basement in high dudgeon; 1 basically well-behaved Guest Dog, currently in her crate gnawing on a rawhide chewy; 2 curious but pugnacious resident dogs (who got in a spat while my foot was between them); and 1 VERY confused lizard, who is sitting in a dish of water in a fishtank, with a reptilian expression I can only interpret as OMGWTFFISHTANK?!?
Let the games begin.
ChiKat - Jun 02, 2008 7:24:03 pm PDT #1667 of 10001
That man was going to shank me. Over an omelette. Two eggs and a slice of government cheese. Is that what my life is worth?
Tep, that's a crappy situation all around. I have nothing further to add but my sympathies.
According to CSI, it gives ya the shits something fierce. It might keep him occupied. What? I'm not bad!
I love omnis. That is all.
Sean K - Jun 02, 2008 7:25:48 pm PDT #1668 of 10001
You can't leave me to my own devices; my devices are Nap and Eat. -Zenkitty
I've never done this, but I saw it on CSI, so it must be true. Sounds like if spawn-dude is there, mix him a drink and squirt visine into it. According to CSI, it gives ya the shits something fierce. It might keep him occupied.
Um, this also sounds like a plot that winds up with a bunch of people in jail for murder.