You're not friends. You'll never be friends. You'll be in love till it kills you both.

Spike ,'Sleeper'


Spike's Bitches 41: Thrown together to stand against the forces of darkness  

[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.


billytea - May 29, 2008 3:24:00 pm PDT #1042 of 10001
You were a wrong baby who grew up wrong. The wrong kind of wrong. It's better you hear it from a friend.

But, short of determining that no, your daughter doesn't have testicular cancer, the nurse (and the doctor) can't diagnose anything without Annabel in front of them.

I don't think she could even promise that, if a certain episode of House is to be believed.


Laga - May 29, 2008 3:30:25 pm PDT #1043 of 10001
You should know I'm a big deal in the Resistance.

sad now. Harvey Korman just died. I might have to go stand in Heddy Lamar's footprints this weekend.


amych - May 29, 2008 3:35:40 pm PDT #1044 of 10001
Now let us crush something soft and watch it fountain blood. That is a girlish thing to want to do, yes?

Hedley!


Ailleann - May 29, 2008 3:39:46 pm PDT #1045 of 10001
vanguard of the socialist Hollywood liberal homosexualist agenda

Harumph!


erikaj - May 29, 2008 4:16:29 pm PDT #1046 of 10001
Always Anti-fascist!

I really don't mind if I bump into a kid somewhere and she...says stuff about my chair. In recent years, though, although the accidental "OMG, cripple!" sightings have gotten less...dramatic, as kids see more of "us" at school or wherever, which I think "Yay!" about for all sorts of reasons, there's kind of a new thing developing which I like less. There seems to be this new thing with certain well-read parents that there are conversations which ought to be had, and so I'm often a springboard for, like, The Crip Conversation. Which somehow makes me twitchy, like I'm on a list of Formative Moments or something, and I didn't prepare, or anything. It's weirder too because that's a conversation completely led by the parents: "Oh, um, Snotleigh was just curious about your chair," when that was not the vibe I really get from from little S. herself. It's like they are crossing off Broken People are Really Okay too and they are good to go till she sees the neighbor kid's penis.(edited to put in "kid" so it's not such a heavy context) Somehow it bugs me to be instructive.


Kat - May 29, 2008 4:58:25 pm PDT #1047 of 10001
"I keep to a strict diet of ill-advised enthusiasm and heartfelt regret." Leigh Bardugo

Somehow it bugs me to be instructive.

Because it's simultaneously dehumanizing as well oddly this weird pedestal place?


Cashmere - May 29, 2008 5:30:52 pm PDT #1048 of 10001
Now tagless for your comfort.

Liv's speech therapist brought over some teeny, Little Tikes doll house toys and people for her therapy session. She pulled one of the dolls out of the bag and realized it had a leg missing. She said she didn't realize it was broken but when she dug all the toys out, she found a wheel chair toy. Liv put the doll in the chair without any prompting and pushed it around the living room floor.

My kids are going to say embarrassing things because they're kids. I'm still remember Owen's yell of "Wake up, Grandma!" at her funeral and feel embarrassed, even though it wasn't unreasonable behavior for a 3 year old.

We just can't possibly educate and prepare them for every individual difference in humans, which is sort of cool when you think about it.


omnis_audis - May 29, 2008 5:30:57 pm PDT #1049 of 10001
omnis, pursue. That's an order from a shy woman who can use M-16. - Shir

ErikaJ is almost me. Just substitute crutches for chair.


brenda m - May 29, 2008 5:48:36 pm PDT #1050 of 10001
If you're going through hell/keep on going/don't slow down/keep your fear from showing/you might be gone/'fore the devil even knows you're there

So you're saying you're not a living disability diorama, but actually a person? Huh. Well in that case, I guess I can see why it would bug.

When I was Em's age or thereabouts, I went up to a black woman carrying a baby on the bus and excitedly told her "I have a chocolate baby too!" because I had a black baby doll at home. I'm not sure my mother ever recovered from that one.


NoiseDesign - May 29, 2008 5:49:31 pm PDT #1051 of 10001
Our wings are not tired

One of the things that always strikes me about you o_a is that when I think of you the crutches are the thing that define you the least in my mind. It's always been that way.