Jayne ,'Jaynestown'
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In my case it was individual friends in college that I didn't hang out with in a group with other friends. Family weddings, and those of either my high school or post-college groups of friends, have enough other people I know present for it not to be a worry.
This weekend's wedding was funny because in addition to the family, all but a handful of my non-related co-workers were there. Worlds colliding and all.
I swear when in Texas that we got some invitations to JUST the wedding - like big church wedding, much smaller reception - common?
That happened to me once in Alabama growing up--the bride was the daughter of a state senator, and the family was in general the First Family of our tiny little nothing town. They invited pretty much EVERYONE to the wedding and maybe half for the reception. But that was one case out of probably dozens of Southern weddings in my childhood. Granted, the rest of those weddings were for ordinary people, and the receptions were generally just fruit punch and cake in the fellowship hall.
DH and I are invited to a reception, but not the wedding, for a couple who sits behind us at M's games. (They and we have had the same 16-game plan since 2002, so we've gotten to be pretty good friends.) I think they're having a very small private wedding and then a post-honeymoon reception. Which is cool, only I know exactly how to dress for a wedding but have no clue what to wear to a standalone reception in a coffeehouse!
It's your wedding! You decide who gets to be there!
And since you've invited me you presumably want me there (generic me), which is unlikely to happen if I'm going to be sitting at a table twiddling my thumbs and trying not to feel like a giant loser. IJS.
I don't think it is or should be a hard and fast rule - if it's a ton of old friends at the wedding, who wants a +1 there in the first place? But it's also nice to try to make things comfortable for your guests, within reason.
This is a weird time for this conversation because I just ordered my invites while watching Recount.
What are all these weddings people are invited to when they don't know anyone else who is going to be there?
It happens. I'm in touch with one friend from college, he is coming but doesn't know anyone I know from law school or whatever. I have other friends who don't know my friends from home and may not know anyone else there. Given that going to a party where I don't know anyone is one of my worst fears, this produces a lot of sympathic anxiety.
They are high school or college friends where either I don't keep in touch with mutual friends, or any mutual friend will actually be in the bridal party. I am never in the bridal party.
For an afternoon snack, I am having blueberry yogurt with Grape Nuts. Totally virtuous, right?
I swear when in Texas that we got some invitations to JUST the wedding - like big church wedding, much smaller reception - common?
My mother wants me to tell you that a church wedding is actually public, so anyone could just go anyway. Both of my parents would like to remind Susan's friend that the wedding is a covenant between the couple and the community, and it is theologically wrong to have a private wedding. If they are Christians, at least.
And since you've invited me you presumably want me there (generic me), which is unlikely to happen if I'm going to be sitting at a table twiddling my thumbs and trying not to feel like a giant loser. IJS.
Unless you are the girl that was mean to me in high school and then I totally want you there sitting at a table alone and miserable watching me in all my glory.
OMG that little revenge daydream felt good.
Well, that would be totally different, naturally.