My ex used to do the forever in the bathroom thing, too, especially after we broke up but were still living together. I once had to explain that I was consistently late because he was always in the bathroom for 45 minutes before I had to leave, and we weren't really speaking or in a place where I could go in there with him.

especially after we broke up but were still living together.

That sounds awfully awkward.

Head go boom. Th building owner in the hell hole I used to live in? Told one of my old neighbors that my apartment was "disgusting."

Um. You know, no. I do not live in "disgusting."

You know what is disgusting? Showering in someone else's bath water while your ceiling caves in.

I'm livid.

yeah, I'd knock and walk in and say "sorry, but I'm gonna be late" and then switch my bathing routine to night and possibly keep a toothbrush at the kitchen sink (I already keep one at work). I kinda hated living with other people.

But does this sound as bad others as it does to me?

Yep.

But does this sound as bad others as it does to me?

It does sound bad, but I would have given her the benefit of the doubt and assume it was a matter of misspeaking. Also, she seems to be talking out the contents of the article, so without context I don't know if that is her statement or not.

Allyson, the landlord is a lying inconsiderate jackhole. It's hard but try to remember that lying inconsiderate jackholes - lie and belittle others and place blame where is does not belong. Also, you are not in that - those comments, you are not in them and neither is the truth or your life. So glad you are out of there.

Not that's the takeaway from your post. He'll be just fine, kat. This won't occupy any time in therapy, really.

HA! Of course he will. My babies are destined for therapy.

The Chile pictures are lovely.

Okay, I'm having a thesis dilemma. I took a year long leave of absence last spring. I've finished my coursework. My original thesis was going to be on early modern cookbooks and women's literacy. But the thing is, I kind of don't care about the topic anymore. I have lots of the research done, but I can't remember what I wanted to write about.

Or I could change my topic and write something about infertility, including a project I have been working on. This would require all new research as well permission for interviews etc. And I'd probably have to change advisors from my current (early modern lit guy).

Thoughts?

Yeah, I will give her the benefit of the doubt - but conditionally. If she doesn't issue a clarification pretty soon, her benefit of the doubt expires.

yeah, I'd knock and walk in and say "sorry, but I'm gonna be late" and then switch my bathing routine to night and possibly keep a toothbrush at the kitchen sink (I already keep one at work). I kinda hated living with other people.

Well, I set my work hours so that I could have my mornings to myself. As I said, normally, I'm out of the house before he's awake. Of course, even though he's not up, I try to spend only 5 minutes or so in the bathroom (since I shower in the evening after my walks).

I'm also pissed because I really would like my own place, but can't afford it, and had basically decided that, as roommates go, he's pretty good so what do I have to complain about, you know?

I'm very glad we have two bathrooms (actually three but I sort of forget about the basement one), my daughter already can spend an ungodly amount of time in the bathroom come bath time.

Let's just say that I'm very glad I have mouthwash at my desk, and that for some reason we have a toilet in a closet in the basement.