I think it is actually a disorder, maybe hoarding [link]

One of the issues sometimes is that a hoarder sort of anthropomorphizing the objects, and ascribes them feelings. I actually do this to a small degree and end up with a lot of dishes from the Salvation Army because they seem lonely there, and maybe they will get thrown away or go to some one who doesn't love them the way I do. I can usually control myself, but it sounds a little like what the woman was doing with the pillow.

New episode of Clean House. The husband, I swear, is Mitch from A Mighty Wind. It's hysterical.

STBX is having to go through a bunch of boxes we brought home from his father's after he had passed. These boxes have been in the back of the garage and untouched for over 6 years.

We definitely have trouble getting rid of stuff at our place, which everyone that has helped us move has been quick to make note of. TCG has boxes and boxes of who knows what, and I have a zillion books, teacups, and various other things. I always make up boxes of stuff to send to charity before we move, but we're still always left with too much stuff.

~ma to alls what needs it.

I'm supposed to go to Glen Ivy spa tomorrow with Mom and my nieces for their 21st birthday present. The girls have not been keeping in touch with their grandma about plans. At this point I dunno if it's going to happen and I'm thinking I'd be happier if it doesn't. I had planned on getting a massage but the cheapest one (besides a foot massage) is $125!

With my grandparents' stuff, we've got a few things that might be valuable. Several boxes of German and Hebrew books from the 1800s. What we need to do is find someone to appraise them, but right now, they're just sitting in cardboard boxes in the flood-prone basement.

Hil - have you checked w. a place like the Philadelphia Print Shop?

I am the anti-packrat. I really don't get why people keep tons of stuff they will never use.

Because, I've moved so much, the only I tend to hoard is boxes. Right now I have some stuff still in boxes because I moved into a furnished place, but generally I have one box that is "souvenir" oriented (i.e., stuff you never use), otherwise, everything is out and used at least once a year.

We haven't checked there. I'm sure there's somewhere in NY that can do the appraisal, but first we've got to sort through for things we want to keep (like prayer books with family information written inside the covers -- I think I sorted out all of those, but I'm not positive), and then just get to the point where my dad is able to part with them. I've suggested that, if there's anything that's of historical value but not much personal value, we could see if we could donate it to the Leo Baeck Institute, which is focused on German-Jewish history, and he agreed to that, but what we're left with is really a whole bunch of things like novels or non-fiction books that aren't worth much to collectors because there were a zillion of them printed, and aren't worth much to us because we can't even read them.

A blog that I've found pretty helpful for figuring out how to deal with stuff is [link] . They've even got a tag for "inherited clutter."