Well, technically, they informed you after the first of the month, so they're obligated for the month unless they find you an acceptable tenant

I have a feeling J is going to apologize and ask to stay. I asked D what he'd say if that happened and he replied, "you called me a fucking idiot in my own home. I can't have you living here after that." So if that happens I think we will be obligated to refund their rent. I will let D know that's a possibility, though.

I feel like such a chump. I've realized that they're both actually quite selfish and thoughtless and that I've been cutting them slack because they're nice to look at. Still I have enjoyed living with them a lot more than the previous roommate and his whiny girlfriend who was over all the time. But I love the idea of just sharing a house, me and D. We already know we make good roommates and now we can have an office again.

But this means we'll have to refund their May balance and security deposit so I don't think I can afford the f2f. pout.

Well, technically, they informed you after the first of the month, so they're obligated for the month unless they find you an acceptable tenant, so you could keep the money.

Yeah, this is BS, laga. A roommate staying/going situation isn't really a landlord/tenant situation, but 30 days notice is not in any way unreasonable.

More importantly, if moving out April 29th and fucking you for May rent is uncool, moving out May 7th and asking for the balance of May rent to be refunded -- effectively retroactively fucking you for May rent is doubly uncool.

Giving them security deposit is one thing, but they have really no right to expect any part of May to be refunded to them.

And... these are the roommates who were always late paying for stuff, yes? You should pay them the money when you damned well feel like it.

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Thanks. That blog looks interesting, but I can't seem to find a way to see the previous posts. None of the posts on that page actually make mention of Spina Bifida. Is there a way to see previous posts that I'm not finding?

I have a feeling J is going to apologize and ask to stay. I asked D what he'd say if that happened and he replied, "you called me a fucking idiot in my own home. I can't have you living here after that." So if that happens I think we will be obligated to refund their rent. I will let D know that's a possibility, though.

wait, did they tell you that they were leaving or did D say that they had to leave?

Let's just say they're being evicted. Then would we owe them a pro-rated refund?

ftr it's the roommate who always paid early and extra who called D a fucking idiot. Wanna know why? Because D was doing laundry and he found clothes in the dryer. So he pulled them out and put them on top of the dryer. There was a shower curtain there which I was planning to wash later (which incidentally they had taken out of their bathroom and left on the front porch, even though it wasn't theirs) and J felt that D should have put his clothes back in the dryer when he was done using it instead of leaving J's clothes adjacent to a dirty shower curtain.

wait, did they tell you that they were leaving or did D say that they had to leave?

I'm not entirely sure, but I think J said they'd move out and D said he thought that was for the best. Does J have the right to change his mind and if so can we say, "nu-uh you said you were moving." Also, if they don't get a refund, could they stay to the end of the month? I don't think anybody wants that.

Let's just say they're being evicted. Then would we owe them a pro-rated refund?

that's a different story. I had the impression that they decided to leave after a fight. If you're kicking them out, then you owe them prorated rent. Or, you could decide to give them a month to find a new place, and keep the rent, and have a month to get the security deposit together.

Hello, Bitches. I spent the weekend at my mother's house and am in a state of family overload. Normally stuff doesn't get to me, but...

First I attended a baby shower for a niece-in-law. Insane ex-SIL in the other room announces that she is not letting her teen daughter (my niece) attend birthing classes because she doesn't want to scare her!! Might have been a good plan to show the kid birthing videos before she got herself pregnant. My sister told me not to worry as she is going to take the kid and be her coach. The niece-in-law is scheduled for a c-section. She is upset because they put her under for the last one and this time she will only had an epidural. She wants to be out cold. The 3rd pregnant girl in attendance didn't know she was pregnant until she was at a routine doctor appointment and they told her she was 6 months along. I survived the shower and reminded myself of all the wonderful sane mothers I know.

Now for the really rough part. My mom is not doing well. She has been at various levels of being sick for most of the year. She rarely gets dressed and has even missed mass a half dozen times. My attempts at trying to get her to seek medical help were met with insistence that she is getting better every day. She did go to the doctor once or twice and was given antibiotics. She hasn't been to my brother's house about 5 miles away for various events because she is too tired. She hasn't been to my sister's house about 1 mile away except a couple times because it is too much effort. My sister cooks for her and brings it to them.

The part that is making me quite insane is that my step-father thinks she is just fine to travel 1500+ miles by car to New York for the summer. We have fought about this for the last 5 years. Every spring she goes north and after the trip she is incapacitated and exhausted for weeks. Every fall she comes back and is again out of commission for weeks. And this is when she is healthy before she leaves. It is too much! It is $104 each to fly. My sister in NY will fly down and help me drive their car north for them. Oh no, they don't want to inconvenience us. They enjoy the drive. Bullshit! The drive depletes what little energy she has. And they don't even need to car because both my sister and nephew have extra vehicles they are welcome to use.

I'm sick about the whole thing and am about to compose a letter to him. She is 86 and he is 71. All the kids are united in thinking this is madness. They act like we are insane to suggest they shouldn't drive. They are completely delusional to think this can end well.

Sorry to dump, but this was a very upsetting trip home for me.

Oh Laura. I so want to give you a great big in person hug right now.

Sorry, hon. That's really frustrating. You should point out that the cost of gas will be a hell of a lot more than $208.