I've had more than one woman tell me very quietly that she envies me my childfree life. Too many women around here bought into the "I'm 20 years old, I should be married and have at least one child here or on the way." It's horrifying to hear the smug "sympathy" for the "poor girl" who's actually graduating college without having found a man to marry her.

Yeah, I think I'm prepared as I can be without actually fully knowing what it's like to be a parent. One good thing about waiting so long to do this thing is that I feel more prepared than I ever have. Also I had a lot of adult, childfree years doing only stuff that I (and GF) want to do and we took full advantage of it. I wanna meet my kid!

the saddest part about having those kind of regrets is that you have no idea what else could have been. Worse is possible. and you are always in the mix - so your attitudes towards life are the big factor.

My mother always told us that she loved us, but she wished she waited. But of course I've been so cautious that all that family stuff doesn't look likely now.

MM, my phone actually rang this morning! More than once!

Don't freak out! It can't really hurt you.

It was a wrong number.

*muttergrumbleluckybitchgrumblemutter*

I love my babies like crazy and love being a mom AND I think it's totally overwhelming much of the time.

Yes, this.

Having a child adds all kinds of stress and worry, but I can't imagine a world without Annabel in it.

Loves on lisah.

awww thanks! I need that right now. Heart is minorly breaking over something I just read that I kind of wish was an April Fool's but I know isn't. about someone I'm mostly over but, I guess, not completely. feh.

I wanna meet my kid!

How wonderful.

so your attitudes towards life are the big factor.

How true.

I worked with a woman today who is endeavoring to shift the lifelong habit of expecting a negative outcome...as a means of protection through preemptive pain...in favor of realizing that she can handle anything that comes along. It seems that simply opting for a positive outcome skips a step and seems un-doable. But she could embrace the idea of positively dealing with adversity.

She's been able to do this already in her non-intimate relationships...but is resisting it with her SO.

Sometimes it makes me sad that we put so much significance on our intimate relationships that we can squeeze the life right out of them.

Why shouldn't the person you hold dearest get MORE of a break than anyone else? Why is it that we so often hand that person more of a BURDEN than we would anyone else?

Why shouldn't the person you hold dearest get MORE of a break than anyone else?

yup

Ok. I've paid bills, balanced my checkbook, figured out my budget for the rest of the month, made a grocery list, filled out some paperwork that needs to be mailed (and found and copied all of the documentation that goes with it), attended classes, made advising appointments on campus, and made arrangements to be interviewed for an informational video next week.

Do we think that's enough productive procrastination (well, going to class wasn't really procrastination) to make my work on my thesis really effective, or do I need to do a few more things before attacking the thesis? (I do have a complete draft, by the way. I only have fairly minor changes to make, and I've still got 5 days, 22 hours, 7 minutes and 10 seconds before it's due!)