I am sure there are people who would never date a vegan, and people who would never date carnivores.

I know someone that said that ketchup on scrambled eggs was a dealbreaker.

Pro or con?

Flea, I think I could date a vegan, but it would have to be a certain type of vegan -- one accepting enough of my non-vegan ways. I'm pretty laissez-faire so if you want to eat baked products that use no dairy, more power to you. As long as you don't force your oat-cake on me.

I would be hard-pressed to find someone who read more lowbrow stuff than I do, so.

In other words, if you set out to write trashy entertainment that makes people forget their troubles for a while, people have less room to turn up their noses if you succeed in writing a highly entertaining trashy novel.

This sounds right to me. And is actually the same way I feel about a lot of music -- I like pop music that appeals to the masses, and basically believe that if millions of people like it, it's got to have something going for it.

I can't imagine a food that would be a deal-breaker.

Actually, I would probably have more of an issue with someone whose taste in movies wasn't compatible with mine, since I think of movies as something to do together. So if he only ever wanted to see obscure and depressing films, I would be bummed out.

Pro or con?

They were very anti-ketchup.

They were very anti-ketchup.

they're right - it keeps the Old Bay from making it to the eggs.

I think I'd draw the line at thinking the Left Behind books are the pinnacle of literature, but outside of that I'd like to think I'm open minded.

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I read, on average, 120 books per year. DH reads about 10. Mine are about a 50-50 split between fiction and nonfiction; his are almost all nonfiction. I wish he read more, but it's hardly a deal-breaker. He's still intelligent and well-informed and interesting to talk to.

What would be a deal-breaker is if he thought my writing was trash just because it's genre fiction with happy endings. I work my ass off trying to improve my craft and be the best writer I can, and I couldn't stay in a relationship with someone who didn't respect one of my central driving passions.

I wonder if people who deeply love music would break up with someone who listened to music they hated?

I deeply love music and I would only break up with someone who judged the music I listened to. You can take your snobbery and don't let the door hit you in the ass on the way out.

I think with the food question, it shouldn't encompass the physically-harmful dealbreaker. Because "peanuts can kill me" is different than "omg, that's so gross!"

My brother will eat anything. And in fact, likes to try new stuff. He ate dryroasted crickets and worms, even. ( Crunchy! ) I'm betting his wife hasn't tried something new in the past 20 years. He makes sure if they go out to eat, it is somewhere she can get something she'll eat and she refrains from telling him what he's eating is gross. Ok, she doesn't, but he likes baiting her, so it works for them.

Eldest nephew is like his dad, with extra bizarre choices. (Juice from canned olives? Canned carrots? Wha?)

Food is hard. DH likes things much spicier than I do, by quite a bit. So if he is cooking, sometimes the food is hotter than I like. But he has things he only likes cooked only one way. However, we have the same attitude towards food - good food well-prepared, equals bliss. And we will try/eat almost any cuisine out there.

I admire people that can get along despite wildly different food prefernces