My perception is likely colored by my usual thinking that I'm the dumbest person, ever. And if I'm dumb, and I knew it was all smoke and mirrors and putting your life on a blackjack table in the hopes that it would all turn out okay...it's hard for me to grasp that anyone else couldn't see that it was all too good to be true.

My perception is likely colored by my usual thinking that I'm the dumbest person, ever. And if I'm dumb, and I knew it was all smoke and mirrors and putting your life on a blackjack table in the hopes that it would all turn out okay...it's hard for me to grasp that anyone else couldn't see that it was all too good to be true.

See, your logical inference fails, because you are not dumb.

See, your logical inference fails, because you are not dumb.

This. Also, I get the impression that you do not suffer from greed. Not that you don't have a healty respect for money, and a desire for plenty of it (see quote above), but money is not your top priority in life. As any conman knowns, while it is not true that you can't cheat an honest person, it is true that greed or dishonest people are open to being cheated in a whole host of ways that honest and reasonabel people are not. So some of them may not have been inherently stupid, but let themselves be turned into fools by greed. Mind you there were honest people caught in this trap too in various ways, some of which have been described upthread.

Years of therapy to get over that hump, tommyrot.

In better (not-home-owning) home news, my O'Keefe & Merritt stove is now fixed--yeah! We can now use both ovens and all pilot lights work.

It took us a lot of calls to find someone who would make a house call, but he turned out to be super nice (if chatty) and it only cost about $100.

I want to squish this puppy [link] or possibly chomp on it.

In freakish death news: Stingray strike results in sunbather's death

A woman in the Florida Keys died today when a stingray jumped from the water and stung knocked her down as she was sunbathing on a boat. Judy Kay Zagorski, 57, reportedly fell backward and died of head trauma. From CBS4.com:

"It's a common behavior for Eagles Rays to go 'aerial', or breach the surface," said Robert Rose, a curator with the Miami Seaquarium. "There are many reasons why they do it. They could be fleeing a predator or trying to dislodge a parasite..."

In South Florida waters, Rose said spotted Eagle Rays can grow up to 12 to 15 feet, from nose to tail, with a width or wingspan of 6 to 8 feet.

Originally it had been reported that the ray stung her, implying she died from that....

Oh, and the ray died too.

The smaller rays in the tank at mumblemumble either NM or Ala museum come really high out of the water on the sides. Considering you can reach your hands in it, it can be pretty alarming.

There was an article in the paper a couple of months ago about a young-ish couple that bought a house. They both had pretty good salaries and they got the "get an ARM, you can refinance in a few years" thing, and they figured they deserved a nice house, so they bought a really nice house. No down payment, so they had money - they furnished the house and fixed it up. Took some nice vacations. Bought a pedigreed puppy and hired a dogwalker. The wife got pregnant and went on maternity leave. And then the whole thing hit. oops. So now they can't refinance, they're trying to make the payments on one salary, they're looking at the rates going WAY up in a couple of years.

The response wasn't terribly sympathetic; MY response isn't very sympathetic.

A woman in my office was talking about how she was looking last year and they were willing to pre-qualify her for something like $400K ... and then she thought about it and decided not to take a chance.

And, to add, one of the "hidden costs" that comes up is when people go to closing and suddenly there are hundreds, if not thousands, of dollars in additional fees that have to be paid or they can't close.

okay, Plei, could you please explain what you mean by overlift and lift?

Most colors will lift the underlying natural color by a couple of levels and deposit a second color on top of it. This makes the overall color brighter/more uniform/blah blah blah. But it's all a balance, and the hair closest to the scalp is prone to bleaching/lifting faster, while being less damaged and absorbing less of the actual color part of the dye. (I'm using highly non-technical terms here.)

A no-lift color just deposits over what's already there.

ETA this is a good example of what roughly the same amount of $ will get you in my current neighborhood: [link] It would probably be a better choice in any number of ways, but that is NOT a shining example of architectural beauty.

The first house is a short sale (note the subject to lender approval). Cute, but small (1400 square feet total living space per King County records), and in a so-so area.

Looks like the one up in Northgate is also a short sale, based on the price at last purchase.

The mid-century split levels are shockingly livable. We saw one that we'd have purchased if it had been half a block down from where it was, just because the space was nice and the floorplan excellent. They also tend to be well-constructed, from the last era of good construction for everyday homes.