That is his problem, not yours.
Amen. Why does he NEED to know what you're thinking or feeling, as long as you're doing your job?
I battle evil. But I don't really win. The bad keeps coming back and getting stronger. Like that kid in the story, the boy that stuck his finger in the duck.
Buffy ,'Showtime'
Natter 57 Varieties
Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.
Susan W. - Mar 11, 2008 1:29:37 pm PDT #4365 of 10001
Good Trouble and Righteous Fights
flea - Mar 11, 2008 1:30:25 pm PDT #4366 of 10001
information libertarian
he prided himself on being able to read people but he couldn't read me at all and never knew what I was thinking or feeling.
Oh God, if I had to work for an asshole like that I'd kill myself. Seriously. My personality? Is not for you, boss-person! I have a right to my own thoughts and feelings!
JZ, take the day, and then think about old job vs. better jobs at old place.
JZ - Mar 11, 2008 1:31:52 pm PDT #4367 of 10001
See? I gave everybody here an opportunity to tell me what a bad person I am and nobody did, because I fuckin' rule.
asshats of the Nth degree ridiculous and unfeeling morons jackholes TOTALLY a Darren-type asshat
Please keep saying things like that. It's very soothing.
And, tommyrot, I am so sorry for hijacking your birthday. You are one of the most awesomest of the Buffistas and totally deserve a birthdaylicious day in Natter.
I blame my ex-bosses.
Glamcookie - Mar 11, 2008 1:34:56 pm PDT #4368 of 10001
I know my own heart and understand my fellow man. But I am made unlike anyone I have ever met. I dare to say I am like no one in the whole world. - Anne Lister
That guy is a fucking idiot. I've had bosses like that - they suck ass.
amych - Mar 11, 2008 1:41:13 pm PDT #4369 of 10001
Now let us crush something soft and watch it fountain blood. That is a girlish thing to want to do, yes?
he prided himself on being able to read people but he couldn't read me at all and never knew what I was thinking or feeling.
People who talk about how well they read people are very much like (and often overlapping with) people who announce that they're nice guys. Totally a jackwad to get away from.
hippocampus - Mar 11, 2008 1:45:33 pm PDT #4370 of 10001
not your mom's socks.
that he prided himself on being able to read people but he couldn't read me at all and never knew what I was thinking or feeling.
ew ew ew! clingyBossType! clingyNeedyBossType! ew! I guess now we know why the position was open.
um.
ahem. also? Yes to what everyone has said. Apply. Apply lots. If you want a step forward, perhaps talk to oldNotClingyNotInsecureBoss about how you could move forward?
beekaytee - Mar 11, 2008 1:46:07 pm PDT #4371 of 10001
Compassionately intolerant
It's like acting, right? Think of what just transpired as one of those agonizingly long callbacks - the ones where you get brought back in 6 or 7 separate times (no lie - they do that at the Guthrie). The director could give Darren from Slings & Arrows a run for his money in therms of pretentiousness and pettiness, and so he makes asinine comments to the actors and has ridiculous reasons for not casting them. And then reserves the right to shuffle the cast after the first readthrough.
Nice one!
Ginger - Mar 11, 2008 1:46:53 pm PDT #4372 of 10001
"It didn't taste good. It tasted soooo horrible. It tasted like....a vodka martini." - Matilda
and that he prided himself on being able to read people but he couldn't read me at all and never knew what I was thinking or feeling.
And this is your fault? (I've had bosses who dinged me in performance appraisals because they *could* tell what I was thinking, and it was "The people in this meeting are idiots and, for the love of god, it's moot point, not mute point.")
If you decide to go back to your old job for a while, JZ, it will be, at most, a strategic retreat in order to regroup. Your old boss knows that you'll ultimately need a different job, and he seems to have been supportive.
Theodosia - Mar 11, 2008 2:03:09 pm PDT #4373 of 10001
'we all walk this earth feeling we are frauds. The trick is to be grateful and hope the caper doesn't end any time soon"
Many people here speak great wisdom, truly.
meara - Mar 11, 2008 2:06:13 pm PDT #4374 of 10001
I've had bosses who dinged me in performance appraisals because they *could* tell what I was thinking, and it was "The people in this meeting are idiots and, for the love of god, it's moot point, not mute point."
Hah! Yeha, that one's a lot more likely to bite me than the other one!