Happy birthday, bev! May the day be filled with peace and tranquility, with an added dash of fun to make things interesting.
bonny, I have no words. You are a wonderfully brave, strong and loving woman. Thank you for sharing.
{{{Nora}}} I'm so sorry this is happening to you and people you care about it.
Little Miss Muddy Face is adorable.
I just had lunch with Maria, and I can't believe it took us a year to tear ourselves away from our respective desks to do so. Craxy!
I know! It's insane!
Hey, I'm even closer to you than Maria, and you never want to have lunch with me! mopes
We should ALL get together for lunch!
We three should have lunch!
Bwah! Inevitable x-post.
mopes
No moping. If you are a DCista, you're automatically invited.
This is another facet of why it would be beneficial for our culture to be more supportive and accepting of people who really are victimized this way - it would make it less of an obsession.
Exactly. If we didn't create so may places to hide, there would be no reason to hide! The whole false memory thing boils my blood.
I had one therapist tell me that she was sure I have repressed memories. I can guarantee you I do...and that's okay because, frankly, I remember plenty and, further more, so WHAT? It isn't the detail that matters, it's what you do with what you have.
Happy Bev Day!!!
There have been a couple of articles here in Florida about sex offenders and housing issues. The latest was about a group who are homeless and living under a bridge, they have a community there with tents and generators and things like that, but the city is trying to get them to move. Only there's no place for them to go.
Another article was about a group of convicted offenders who were living in a mobile home park, actually the park is almost all offenders and a couple of the men interviewed talked about how they were policing themselves to make sure no one was doing anything wrong and they wouldn't get kicked out.
I'm not sure what to do about the situation but they have to live some place and I think the laws need to be changed so it's easy to find out exactly what kind of offense someone has been charged with.
ION I have my first project at work! I've been asked to organize the blood drive and I'm very excited.
No moping. If you are a DCista, you're automatically invited.
The ironic thing was, as I thought "Hey, I could walk there in 15 minutes" immediately followed by the realization that I had no time!
Happy Beverly Day!
I dropped Ellie off at school. She seemed to really enjoy introducing everyone to her new brother. She also took a little scrapbook with pictures from her trip and her teacher showed it to the class. She seemed to like that too. None of the other kids knew what the snow was which was funny.
Awwwww!
The friend of the family that died just after Thanksgiving? My dad's best friend? His widow just died today (also a close friend of the family of course). Of a stroke.
Oh, fuck. I’m so sorry, Nora.
some of the negative effects - particularly the validating stasis - that can occur in support groups.
This is one of the things I LOVE about DBT. The point of it is to get you out of it--get you the skills so you no longer need the groups and the therapy. And while I’m all about the validating, it’s only ok as long as it’s validation on the path to something better.
bonny, thanks for sharing, you.
Yeah, I quit mine.
But I was hardly the model group member for that group of Birth Survivors due to my disquieting tendency to blurt out things like "Okay, who'd you fuck?"
I wasn't wrong. But that just made it worse.
Wow, I post a "Yikes" moment, and a great discussion ensues. I love this board!
I love that this place can be so full of real sharing. We talk about silly things, about frustrating things, about the most joyful things, about the things that damage us, and about the things that heal us. I feel grateful that there is such an openness here.
OK, that puts it much better than I could, so... THIS THIS THIS!
Bonny. Wow. I don't know what to type. Mostly, I admire your strength for moving on, and your willingness to share, and... well, what others wrote better upthread.
I haven't read anything about omnis' neighborhood, but I'm guessing the concentration was identified by a neighbor or other interested party, vs authorities making an announcement. Is that right?
Actually, it was an e-mail forwarded from the 2nd District Councilwoman, a city elected position, to the neighborhood association. The slightly freakier thing is, according to the website, several of them are flatmates! The thrust of the "rally" is against the LANDLORD for renting to that many registered offenders.
omnis - is it a large apartment complex that all of these convicted sex offenders are living in or is it a smaller apartment house, maybe a half-way house?
If I recall the right building, it is about 45 apartments or so (judging from the outside), so roughly 1/4 of the apartments have offenders in it, some of them double booked (I assume 2 bedroom apartments). Since there seems to be HUGE moral/community outrage, I'm guessing it's not a half-way house. Unless the landlord is somehow a former offender, or sympathetic to their plight, and has set up a defacto, unofficial halfway house.?.?
I do recall talk on the local NPR a while back on the proposed expanding laws, how registered offenders couldn't be within x feet of parks, schools, etc. And how the propsed law was phrased, it meant they could only live on a farm, or in the middle of nowhere, as most metro areas had city parks within that range to any resident, for "green zone" purposes. And how that is very unfair to those trying to re-assimilate back into society.
My personal experience with sex offenders is a very good friend of our family was convicted of a sexual offense his victim being his step-daughter. The problem being, the step-daughter and her mother later recanted the story, admitted to it being a lie...
I had a similiar experience in college. A friend was seeing this gal who had been raped by an ex, and then, any other date she went on she was saying "he tried to rape me". One of which was a double that I was the other half. I saw what happened. He tried to hold her hand after dinner. He tried to give a peck good night. That is it. So, I do wonder, how many "false positives" in sexual offense cases there are? It is scary, because that stigma does stay with you a LONG time, and now, with the Megans Law, even longer. I know after that incident, I was even *more* gunshy on dates. Like I needed any help in that dept.
On the whole. Very mixed feelings, it being two blocks from where I live and all. I want to be forgiving, and the liberal side of me wants to say they are on the road to making a new life for themselves... but for the first time, the NIMBY is like "hey! But wait!". I think that is scaring me more than anything.
ION:
I'm totally NIMBY today about my own effing body. I don't know if it's the communist invasion or something else but it can just stop wreaking havoc with my GI tract now.
d- O do I feel for you. Yup. I know how frustrating the GI tract can be. Much belly~ma for you. Hope it passes soon.
But I was hardly the model group member for that group of Birth Survivors due to my disquieting tendency to blurt out things like "Okay, who'd you fuck?" I wasn't wrong. But that just made it worse.
This is one of the many reasons I
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Erika.
But I was hardly the model group member for that group of Birth Survivors due to my disquieting tendency to blurt out things like "Okay, who'd you fuck?"
Someday I'll turn gay and we'll run away to Denmark and get gay married.
Cool...reverse diaspora's fine with me. Full circle and all that(great-grandpa came from Copenhagen)
And they never watched television, either. Ever.
What can I talk to people like that about?
Especially if they don't appreciate a good murder.
I'm out, then, you know.
It's how we roll in Munchkinland.
Deflecting personal questions with jokes since 1978.
