Either way, warning him or not, I risk the phone call.

Yes.

But you can honestly tell them they don't have a leg to stand on if THEY blame YOU for delivering a shock to their daughter.

And you take away their "well, we were GOING to tell you dear,when the time was right but mean bad Aimee blah blah blah"

And, if they haven't told her, it is better that she learn if from them. For her sake, give them one last chance to be good parents about this.

Wow, Empress.

Relatives are like timebombs, aren't they. I half expect Hubby's daughter to appear at our doorstep someday with some amazing tale that will throw unexpected developments into my life. Then there's his son, somewhere in the world, who may or may not know that the man he calls Dad isn't the genetic donor.

I wonder how many people's lives are moments away from high drama and they never know it.

I would also add your email. give her all ways to communicate. Letter looks good

good luck Aimee

Aimee, you don't owe your bio-dad anything.

However, if he's had a relationship with your half-sis, and if you don't know whether that relationship is good or bad, you might want to send him one last note, telling him that you're going to contact half-sis, and if he wants to break the news first, he can do so, but if he chooses to NOT break the news, you're still going to contact her.

If he has a decent relationship with her, she might want to hear it from him first.

I'm not saying that you should decide whether to contact her based on his reaction; definitely contact her, no matter what. But maybe give him one last chance to do the right thing. Give him a time frame; like Trudy said, tell him that you're going to contact half-sister in March no matter what, so if he wants to be honorable about it, he has until then to tell her.

Amazing Aimee - good luck!

Teppy (and everyone else) is wise.

Beth says what I was going to. If I got such a letter, I'd want to respond quickly, but probably not by phone. Good luck with it. She's a lucky person to be related to you and the amazing Miss Em.

The dentist said that the stitches where my tooth was would come out on their own. Most have, but one is driving me insane and it seems to be camped in there for the long haul.

Also, I'm making the ATK recipe for pulled pork in my crockpot. I have been smelling it all day and I think I'm about to eat a television remote and a couple of pens.

Something like:

Dear Bio-Dad:

I've recently moved back to Michigan and since I last wrote you, I have gotten married and have had a daughter. I would very much like to contact Sister, but wanted to give you the opportunity to break the news, as it were, to her about having a half-sister. I will be sending a letter to her at the beginning of March.

Hope all is well with you,

Signed,
Daughter you refuse to acknowledge and now you don't get to know your totally kick-ass granddaughter, you halfwit.

I would change the wording of "I would very much like" into something more definitive to make it clear that he does not have control over your actions, only his. Like, "I am going to."

(Whoops, hit post early.)

But other than that, I think it sounds great.

Is there a reason you'd be waiting till March, Aimee?

I think I'm about to eat a television remote and a couple of pens.

Funny, I think Mr. Peabody is posting for Ginger!