Nothin'. I just wanted you to face me so she could get behind ya.

Mal ,'The Train Job'


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omnis_audis - Jan 31, 2008 5:37:55 pm PST #4934 of 10001
omnis, pursue. That's an order from a shy woman who can use M-16. - Shir

Condolences, GC and GF.

An idea for you. Here at our theater, we've had a number of memorial services these past few years. Are there any groups/organizations that he was involved with? Lions Club? Masons? A theater? Golf Course? Often these places have a congregating room that might be nice.


Liese S. - Jan 31, 2008 5:48:30 pm PST #4935 of 10001
"Faded like the lilac, he thought."

Condolences, GC. I'm so sorry for your loss.

Make sure you take care of yourself too, in addition to taking care of GF.


§ ita § - Jan 31, 2008 5:55:13 pm PST #4936 of 10001
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.

GC, I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. I wish you and yours all the peace in the world.


libkitty - Jan 31, 2008 6:17:00 pm PST #4937 of 10001
Embrace the idea that we are the leaders we've been looking for. Grace Lee Boggs

I'm so sorry for your and your GF's loss, GC. May he rest in peace.

Since a religious ceremony is not preferred, perhaps a friend might be willing to step in as a sort of MC. Sometimes it's best to ask someone who wasn't a close friend of her father, but rather a friend of someone else in the family, so that it's someone trusted, but not overwhelmed by the situation.


Beverly - Jan 31, 2008 6:32:47 pm PST #4938 of 10001
Days shrink and grow cold, sunlight through leaves is my song. Winter is long.

All my sympathies, GC and GF. Peace and strength to you both, and to all who knew and loved him.


Ginger - Jan 31, 2008 6:38:14 pm PST #4939 of 10001
"It didn't taste good. It tasted soooo horrible. It tasted like....a vodka martini." - Matilda

Peace and strength to GC and her BF and family.

I've been to memorial services in which people were just asked to come forward if they had something to say and to ones in which just a few friends were asked to say something. I think the main keys to a smooth process are telling people ahead of time that you'd like people to contribute and a gentle reminder of a time limit for each speaker. I agree with libkitty that an MC type helps. Maybe he has a friend who has done some public speaking? Also, there are religious people who will conduct nonreligious memorials. Around here, it's usually the people who also conduct nonreligious weddings and commitment ceremonies. A university chaplains' office might have suggestions.


Fay - Jan 31, 2008 6:46:36 pm PST #4940 of 10001
"Fuck Western ideologically-motivated gender identification!" Sulu gasped, and came.

Oh, GC, I'm sorry. At least you're past that whole tension of wondering when it will happen, but I'm sorry for your GF's loss.

I think I don't want to go to Qatar, but it seems the American University in Cairo is looking for people. That could be interesting.

Awesome!


WindSparrow - Jan 31, 2008 6:59:37 pm PST #4941 of 10001
Love is stronger than death and harder than sorrow. Those who practice it are fierce like the light of stars traveling eons to pierce the night.

{{{meara}}}

{{{GC&GF&Family}}}

Sox, I may COMM the unravelling line.


NoiseDesign - Jan 31, 2008 7:04:48 pm PST #4942 of 10001
Our wings are not tired

Hugs to GC and GF and Family.

It's just been extended and I hope to see it but I thought for certain that Hoch had some sort of link to Buffistadom. No? Yes?

A very loose connection through me, I did a playwrights festival that he was involved in a few years ago.


meara - Jan 31, 2008 7:14:23 pm PST #4943 of 10001

I vote stay in Seattle, since you'd seemed to be doing such a good job of carving yourself a niche there - but if you opt for the Big Adventure, there's a sofabed in Bangkok with your name on it.

Heh. I will hold you to that, as I'm DEFINITELY contemplating Big Adventure. Not sure if now, or in like, six months (since I want to see this famous Seattle summer!), but...

Had dinner with a friend (I have friends! here!) who is going to Mexico for a month and renting a condo, and suggested I come down there for a couple weeks, and lay on the beach. I think it sounds like an excellent plan. I may have to do that.

At Coca-Cola's HQ campus in Atlanta you can't get past security carrying say, a Taco Bell cup, or wearing Pepsi blue.

OK, i get not letting you have Pepsi, but not wearing BLUE???

Condolences, GC. Best of luck having a wonderful funeral/ceremony. :(

I think I don't want to go to Qatar, but it seems the American University in Cairo is looking for people. That could be interesting.

Ooh! I remember walking past that while visiting Fay! That would be so interesting, Hil! Do you know anythign about Jewish life in Cairo?