Jilli, have you seen these? link

It is the adult thing to say, "You know, Boss. I like you, I like working for you and you have been great these past 7 months. But I just don't think that I am doing you any good and I don't know what else I could do to make things better. I think that before my work gets bad and you have to make a decision you might not want to that I should say you need to find a new person." right?

Only if you have another job lined up first. You gots to look out for yourself, yo.

What GC said.

Is this online? If so, how have I managed to miss it, and link please? If not, then I'll just have to sit here being oh, so very jealous of Jilli.

Er. Well, since I've started listening to audiofic I thought I'd have a crack at recording some, you know? But if you've not discovered audiofic, you can find some here. I've recorded a couple of wee stories, but you'll also recognise several familiar names, I suspect. (If you haven't read Yahtzee's rather delightful 'Series of Unfortunate Events/Edward Scissorhands' crossover, I would definitely recommend reading it. Although YMMV.)

I got completely freaked out a few months ago when a former co-worker told me her best friend is convinced her house is haunted. They live in a giant, old house that used to be a funeral home. Which didn't bother her until her three year old daughter told her about a specific "invisible friend"--a little boy with blue lips, who the child says, is "bad."

t freaked out

Seriously. That's - gah. So not fun.

Jesus. This will be 3 funerals in 5 weeks.The kid was 25 years old.

Holy crap, Norah - I'm so sorry that you and yours are enduring such a succession of blows. I'm willing you good things for 2008.

Speaking of which... HAPPY NEW YEAR, BITCHES!

eta Aimee, I understand where you're coming from and I HAVE had that very conversation with a boss. And happily the universe sent me an eminently suitable job that I was able to start only a month after leaving. But I would never ever ever recommend anyone to do this, as it is VERY stupid. It's what I did, and I would probably do it again because the whole notion of lying to my employer and getting myself sorted out with a job before telling them I'm leaving makes me feel sick, but - do as I say, not as I do. Especially since you've got hostages to fortune and all that - you've GOT to look after yourself, and just do your damnedest to avoid screwing over your employer in the process. But don't screw yourself over in your attempts to do right by your employer.

Only if you have another job lined up first.

Totally. Hence the resume questions.

Cool - then yes, once you've accepted another position, I think what you typed is a perfectly appropriate way to give notice.

How much do I love half.com? One of my textbooks for the upcoming quarter costs $118.00 new ($93 used at the UCLA bookstore) and I picked it up for $45.99 on half. Rock!

Score, GC!

Thanks for all your thoughts and condolences, guys.

a specific "invisible friend"--a little boy with blue lips, who the child says, is "bad."

I told my DH this and he freaked out (actually, he started freaking with the "used to be a funeral home" bit) fully. CREEPY.

WHY did my first day back at work have to feature an extended office visit from the volunteer with the overpowering stinky perfume, the constant narration of everything she does, and the hopeless computer confusion? (I might actually have some sympathy with the latter if it weren't for the first two issues, because she's very old, but the perfume turns my stomach and a big part of the narration is grumbling about the computer systems and asking why everything has to be so complicated. Because we're a HOSPITAL. We have to protect our data. Just DEAL with it.)

Aimee, one thing that came up when I was seeing a counselor for depression lately was that it's OK to look for a new job even if you're not unemployed, nearing the end of a contract, or utterly miserable in your current situation. Even if where you are is not so bad, you're allowed to look for something that's a better fit. As she kept drilling into me at our last session, "It's OK to ask for what you want."

(As a result, I'm going to be looking, too, in a low-key way. This job was accepted in desperation to get out of an untenable situation, and I ended up in the untenable situation out of desperation to avoid bankruptcy. So my counselor persuaded me that being in an OK situation is the perfect time to be picky and look for something that's an actual FIT. And she told me I need to stop asking about management styles in an effort to screen for micro-management and instead ask whether a job offers autonomy, because that's what I'm really looking for, and that there's bound to be a manager out there who'd rather have someone like me they can turn loose on independent projects instead of the typical Team Player which I am emphatically not.)