Especially if you didn't put it in writing anywhere for them to refresh their memories.

Well, *she* wrote it down. I will just need to steel myself to not accept the offer immediately until thinking it over and figuring out if I should negotiate.

Absolutely negotiate. Especially if you have new information about what the job would entail.

I will just need to steel myself to not accept the offer immediately until thinking it over and figuring out if I should negotiate.

Definitely. And remember that you may be able to negotiate for things besides money -- benefits and perks.

Thanks for asking the question Nora. I'm waiting to see what I am offered for my new job. I haven't been asked what I want, and there are some other issues at play - so it will be interesting to see what they offer. But I'm ready to negotiate if it does not meet my current expectations.

It is nice to read everyone's support of waiting for the offer and then negotiating from there.

Yup, this. Lots of things are negotiable, and employers sometimes like doing those because it gives them more invisible latitude with the overall compensation package.

Man, Liese, I can't believe you threw out the superintendent!

Ha. So wrong. He came back, though. He wasn't offended for long.

So. Very. Aussie.

The Biscuit is mainly Australian Shepherd, and he's totally like this although we're trying to work out some of the more annoying behaviors. (You may ask nicely to be petted. You may not charge into the room demanding instant pettification.)

Are Aussies generally barky? Ours never used to bark at all, in the desert, but he sure barks a lot here in the neighborhood. I'm hoping it calms down when we get to the new house, but sheesh, dog.

I bet the Biscuit is barking more because there is more to bark about.

Ginger, Mr. Peabody is adorable.

Yeah, I definitely believe this. It's just a more active neighborhood, very dog-oriented. Lots of people, kids playing, moms walking strollers down the street. He's very happy. Just very barky.

ETA: Ugh. Sorry about all that. I think I just needed to see it all laid out so I can feel better about what I'm doing.

Not at all. You need to realize what you’ve been doing. In your resignation letter, make sure that you say how badly you feel about the lack of notice, but you could not pass up the opportunity. If you really feel bad, offer to come in on the weekend (for a defined amount of time) for a few weeks to help with the transition.

A BAT spokeswoman said it was its policy to approach anyone using a design that closely resembled its brands.

In all fairness to the cigarette people, they really have to pursue this. Part of maintaining your trademark is defending it against all potential encroachers. If you don’t, when someone actually does encroach on your trademark, they can say “well, look at all of these situations where they didn’t defend it”

I would have been damn glad of one less thing to smile through before the wedding.

That’s the truth. My best friend did not want me to throw her a bridal shower because she was too stressed out and she was afraid that another event or obligation would make her head explode. She said that to me, and I understood and I said okay. Unfortunately, I didn’t impress that on other people and her sister in law insisted on throwing a lunch. I intervened and tried to have her do it super casual, but of course that didn’t really work. I had to look the woman in the eye and say “do you really believe that if she wanted a bridal shower, I wouldn’t have done one for her? There is a reason that I didn’t plan anything, and if you don’t respect me, respect her” She was appropriately chastised,but the die was cast.

"after our discussion of the position and all the responsibility it entails, I have considered my salary request and think it would need be closer to the XY side of the range."

I think that this is the right way to say it. You don’t want the recruiter to do all of the work, and then turn it down when the salary that you gave them is too low. This is particularly important if you don’t want to negotiate, or don’t think that you would be comfortable doing so. It’s all well and good to say that you’ll negotiate later, but you don’t want to end up saying “oh, I guess I’ll take it, I don’t want the hassle”

ION, today is ON THE LIST

Went to bed almost an hour earlier than usual because I’ve been tired. Woke up, listened to the radio for a bit, glanced over at the clock and FUCKING FUCKSTICKS, IT’S 9:44!! Jumped in and out of the shower, ran out the door. Started to make coffee in my one cupper, noticed that the bottom was a little gross, wiped it off, started the coffee. Glanced over at the corner of my desk to see . . . my coffee cup? And yes, fucking fuckballs on a fucking platter, I’d forgotten to put the cup under the motherfucking spout. ON THE LIST.

Started to make coffee in my one cupper, noticed that the bottom was a little gross, wiped it off, started the coffee. Glanced over at the corner of my desk to see . . . my coffee cup? And yes, fucking fuckballs on a fucking platter, I’d forgotten to put the cup under the motherfucking spout. ON THE LIST.

I have done this with the entire pot before. I should not be allowed to make coffee until I've had it.