It's not diplomatic to use "we" in that situation; it's passive-aggressive.
I need to get this made poster size and hang it in my office.
And the teacher who did it had never spoken to me before. Didn't remember my name. Said she'd meet me in my office then called down and asked her if I would come up to her room. Asked me what my protocol was and after I told her said, "Well D (last guy in this position from last year) used to sit with me" (which is beyond passive-aggressive). Then when I walked in handed two stacks of papers to grade.
I guess I'm sort of still chapped.
Do any of you have a different reaction between offering to do something, very publicly and very often, and between someone assuming you will do the exact same thing?
Yes.
"We?" Do you mean, "me"? Because if it's me, it'll take a little bit longer than if we are ALL working on this project. So let us be clear that we is me.
And HELL YES.
Anyone have a cool-mist humidifier they love? I can't afford a bigger Venta, and the one we have isn't powerful enough for either bedroom.
Geez, and I feel guilty asking people to do things even when it's explicitly their job to do them!
:: Vibing hard for Fred, Hubs & their fur kids ::
Vibes to the kittycat and to Fred and hubs.
Kat--my hide is chapped just hearing about that.
But, here's why I can't really be pissed.
It IS my job to support the teachers. It is also my job to ensure that the assessments are completed and turned in on time. And that is as detailed a job description as I have around the SPA.
AND I sent a memo to all of the teachers on 10/29 saying that if teachers needed assistance with grading I could help them but to let me know within the next day or two. I did tell them I needed to mail the stuff by 11/5.
So I can't really be mad. I think I'm just mad about the whole entitled attitude. And, I'm amused at my own reaction because it isn't called for.
It's not diplomatic to use "we" in that situation; it's passive-aggressive.
That happens ALL THE TIME here. I think it's worse because chaplaincy training is all about Group Dynamics and Supportive Listening and other assorted touchy-feelyness, and they don't know how to turn it off when practicality and clarity are more needed than warm fuzzy feelings.
I didn't read Kathy's link but now am CRAVING falafel. Do I ditch my leftovers and go get a falafel???
Ooooh, I DO love falafel. I better keep an eye on myself. I'm pretty shifty.
Do I ditch my leftovers and go get a falafel???
Only if you HATE AMERICA.
