The asshate will not be at Thanksgiving. What Mom is trying to facilitate is Meg being at Christmas but yes beth is very wise and I am going to mention to Mom that maybe Meg not being there for Christmas would be a good thing.

Totally other topic, here is a video of a big bear lion hug: [link]

Beth_B has wise advice. I'd lean towards the proverbial High Road (nooo, not that kind of high!). Kill with kindness, so that when he starts acting like an asshat, it wasn't provoked by you, and thus shows Meg (hopefully) and rest of family how much of an asshat he really is. If he's not an asshat for the day, BONUS! You had a nice T-day then. Family is very important to you. Don't block it out. It's a practical request, that while the family is there to deal with the issue. Make sure to say at the END of the day, so as to use any transgressions of the day against him.

ETA- cross post, I see he's not to be there. Dunno what to say. Either way, chin up. It's family, and you love them... don't push them away.

I'd lean towards the proverbial High Road (nooo, not that kind of high!)

I've heard that kind of high can be useful for getting through the holidays too, but wouldn't know. :)

beth is so wise, she deserves all the sugar free chocolates ever.

lucky me !

and in diabetes news--- blah blah blah - even though hate is too strong a word --- I am in major hate with it right now. My old meter broke. I now have a new meter - and my control, which has always been good is gone. I looked at the scale - and that is part of the problem. I've been arguing with my meter for two weeks. Today , I decided to go back to FitDay.com - for food tracking. Eve before I posted anything my control looked better today. Part of me wonders if it is because I still have the aftereffects of a three week ( or four week, depending on who you talk to ) cold. Or if just took me a few weeks to get my head in the right place to take control. What fun just before the holiday season. At least I have 'til April before I have to deal with the idea of MORE medication.

and I didn't think he was going to be there at Thanksgiving - but his presence will be there -- and he only get one holiday in my book.

I have chocolate penguins from L.A. Burdick's. They are too cute to eat.

I have chocolate penguins from L.A. Burdick's. They are too cute to eat.

I can't believe that without seeing them. Send 'em here, and I'll let you know if I agree.

don't do it! IT"S A TRAP! She'll kidnap them!!!!

I have chocolate penguins from L.A. Burdick's. They are too cute to eat.

I'll bet they are also too delicious not to eat. It's a penguin paradox.