I was responding to this from Toddson
Trudy - teh sex, silly!
it's an irritatingly common misconception.
dating is a pita no matter what your orientation.
Come on. You drop by for a cup of coffee, and the world's not ending? Please.
Connor ,'Not Fade Away'
Spike's Bitches 38: Well, This Is Just...Neat.
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Laga - Nov 02, 2007 7:44:46 am PDT #2110 of 10002
You should know I'm a big deal in the Resistance.
Cass - Nov 02, 2007 7:45:32 am PDT #2111 of 10002
Bob's learned to live with tragedy, but he knows that this tragedy is one that won't ever leave him or get better.
Do you know how long three minutes can last?Pretty much forever.
Aims - Nov 02, 2007 7:51:52 am PDT #2112 of 10002
Shit's all sorts of different now.
it's an irritatingly common misconception.
Well, I get that, but Toddson's comment has some validity also. There *is* sex involved in polyamory, yes? The relationships aren't purely about sex, but there is sex there.
Laga - Nov 02, 2007 7:56:15 am PDT #2113 of 10002
You should know I'm a big deal in the Resistance.
There *is* sex involved in polyamory, yes?
I seem to remember sex. It's just that so very many people think poly and swinging is the same thing. The root of poly (for me) is the freedom to be in love with more than one person at a time. Sex is just one part of love.
Trudy Booth - Nov 02, 2007 8:06:32 am PDT #2114 of 10002
Greece's financial crisis threatens to take down all of Western civilization - a civilization they themselves founded. A rather tragic irony - which is something they also invented. - Jon Stewart
Sure, but sex is what makes it polyamory.
Sex isn't the defining factor of the relationships themselves, but sex is what makes the other relationships not monogamy.
Laga - Nov 02, 2007 8:13:53 am PDT #2115 of 10002
You should know I'm a big deal in the Resistance.
Sure, but sex is what makes it polyamory.
no. It's not. Love is what makes it polyamory. Lots of people have sex without love. I have known celibate poly folk.
Daisy Jane - Nov 02, 2007 8:15:02 am PDT #2116 of 10002
"This bar smells like kerosene and stripper tears."
Sure, but sex is what makes it polyamory.
Sex isn't the defining factor of the relationships themselves, but sex is what makes the other relationships not monogamy.
I don't see it that way. When I think of polyamory I think of three or more adults in a functioning relationship-whether or not they are currently having sex.
When I think of swingers, I think of at least one functioning relationship that includes sex with each other and other people/couples.
WindSparrow - Nov 02, 2007 8:15:24 am PDT #2117 of 10002
Love is stronger than death and harder than sorrow. Those who practice it are fierce like the light of stars traveling eons to pierce the night.
Daniel is napping on the sofa. He has a cat lump under the throw blanket. It's the cutest that snoring can be.
Trudy Booth - Nov 02, 2007 8:15:54 am PDT #2118 of 10002
Greece's financial crisis threatens to take down all of Western civilization - a civilization they themselves founded. A rather tragic irony - which is something they also invented. - Jon Stewart
My Grandparents would be very freaked out to know that they were polyamorous through their fifty-some years of marriage.
Daisy Jane - Nov 02, 2007 8:16:54 am PDT #2119 of 10002
"This bar smells like kerosene and stripper tears."
Why, were they dating someone else at the time too?