Susan, could you go in for a couple hours this afternoon and win yourself some dedicated-employee points that way while you let them know you'll be leaving early Friday?
At this point it's probably too late, partly because of commute logistics. I won't bore you with the details, but suffice it to say parking is expensive and hard to find and the bus schedule is impossibly convoluted except during peak hours when the express I take runs.
I think what I'm going to do, since it does look like it's going to have to be me instead of DH taking AB to the appointment, is get him to do the daycare drop-off and pick-up tomorrow so I can go in a bit early and stay till the very last express bus leaves that evening. I'll tell them first thing in the morning, then spend the day being impressively productive.
As I keep having to remind myself, I do work for chaplains who explicitly prioritize self-care. And even if my new boss is more efficient, driven, and bureaucratically minded than any of the other staff chaplains, she's still, you know, a Buddhist priest. Not that being a member of the clergy guarantees that you're a wonderful person or anything, of course, but still.