I've known very few couples who haven't wanted to kill each other five weeks before the wedding. I think a lot of it is feeling that things are out of their control.

No, he doesn't have a suit, and YES it matters. If he shows up in a suit after I have spent all of this time and all of this money planning this whole affair with almost NO help from him, murder is going to happen. He can at the very least show up in an f-ing tuxedo, which is what he AGREED ON many many months ago. Further, I do not want to choose the tuxedo, nor do I want his best man to choose it - I want HIM TO CHOOSE HIS OWN FREAKING CLOTHING. Why is that unreasonable? I have spent an absolutely obnoxious amount of time choosing my own attire. Also, when his best man got married a few years ago, they had A BLAST choosing the tuxes, and he also VERY MUCH ENJOYED wearing said tuxedo.

I am relieved to hear that this is normal. Honestly, I have been beyond patient with him. I accepted the fact that this wasn't his thing, and I've dealt with pretty much everything by myself. But its HIS TUX! I don't want to choose his clothes for him.

We do need some time off. Both of us. Very much so.

I am insanely stressed and I so desperately want this to be over. Never. Again. Absolutely never. And if I ever have a daughter, I'm hiring her a freaking wedding planner and staying the hell out of it.

In other news, the dramatic commercial breaks on Hell's Kitchen drive me nuts. I don't even care who wins anymore, the only one from this season that I actually liked was Julia.

I am insanely stressed and I so desperately want this to be over. Never. Again. Absolutely never.

Delurking to say everyone I knew before I got married vowed the same thing. I started at a job, and for the first year a woman was planning her wedding. She knew I was engaged, and a month before her wedding, looked me straight in the eyes and said:

"Elope. I'm serious. Whatever you do, just... elope."

The next year, another co-worker got married. Two months before her wedding, she heaved a huge sigh, looked me straight in the eyes and said, yes, you guessed it:

"Elope. Go to Vegas. Send everyone a postcard later."

So, yes, it's all normal. Doesn't make it any less maddening, but it is normal.

I pretty much enjoyed both my weddings, though in neither case was the preparation what I'd call normal.

And I need to go grocery shopping tomorrow.

For baby wipes?

{{Callaluna}} Yeah, normal. As is working too damn much when you work for yourself. Try and take a little time to enjoy the process and each other. Maybe cut out some tuxedos from a catalog and an appropriate paper doll and play dress up with him. Trying to repeat the process he had with the best man might not work. Be sure to include blue ruffles with the samples.

Yay ita for a most excellent car repair report!

Yay JZ for the most excellent interview!

It's pretty normal Callaluna.

I don't think I took care of my tuxedo stuff until the week before the wedding (with JZ) actually. I apologize for all the groomsmen who are lacksadaisical about tuxedo acquisition!

poll posse - anyone around with time? Can you hop on AIM?

I have some time, but I'm not on the poll posse. I'm sajesq on AIM if theres anything I can do.

I posted my question in Bureau, so the whole board could weigh in.