ION I found out that the friendship Grandma E had with her former preacher was really a romance. They'd known each other a long time, he was the preacher at the church I attended when I was young (buildings are named for both him and his late wife there), he spoke at my grandfather's funeral and he was a huge fixture in the community. He and Grandma E were great friends, when he could no longer drive she'd take him to nursing homes or to the hospital for him to do his ministery and they talked all the time. Grandma E always called him "Preacher" or "Preacher

I have a friend with ADHD and I am the one who always has to sort things out.

I feel horrible saying this, but living with a friend with ADD for three years has made me a better listener. When you have to reconstruct a thought process after entering in the middle, it makes context clues all the more important.

When B went on meds the first time, I knew instantly because he told me an entire story from start to finish, without hitting three other topics in the middle. I almost cried with joy. (Of course, he's gone off the meds since, but that's neither here nor there...)

Uh-oh.

Babies not as innocent as they pretend.

When you have to reconstruct a thought process after entering in the middle, it makes context clues all the more important

Absolutely. But my friend rarely even gives me context clues. She's not medicated for ADHD and there are days when it is painfully obvious.

That's interesting. I don't know that it's "deception" per se. They learn that a certain action will provoke a certain response. Deception, to me, has an element of intent to make someone believe something that's not true. The children don't consciously want the parent to believe that they're wet or hungry or whatever, they just know that crying will bring attention.

good luck,askye. whatever the solution is, it sounds like a problem worth tackling.

I went to the doctor today - because, if anything, I was getting worse. What she thought is that I have gotten viruses on top of the original virus -When my lungs got inflamed they made room for new viruses. and the teen fever - hints that bacteria are trying to take over. so antibiotic time.She gave me the option of starting the antibiotics later, but I know I getting worse.

I just Frontlined the cat.

It took a minute to shake the idea that you'd forced the cat to watch hours of PBS documentaries.

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The children don't consciously want the parent to believe that they're wet or hungry or whatever, they just know that crying will bring attention.

How do we know they don't want the parents to believe they're not okay? There's the problem with studying the pre-verbal. The difference between "mom comes when I cry" and "mom comes when I complain about a wet diaper" is wafer thin.

The difference between "mom comes when I cry" and "mom comes when I complain about a wet diaper" is wafer thin.

right, which is why I have a problem with the researcher calling it "deception"

I like to assume they know something I don't, but stranger things have happened.

Mainstream articles about scientific studies are too often wack.