Well, this past weekend, two people told me this girl has a crush on me, and would be totally into stuff. But that's not the impression I've gotten from HER, so I had to be like "Um, that's cool and all, but until SHE flirts back or encourages me to kiss her, I'm not gonna just take your word for it..."
Dude, sometimes people are shy. Some people, as has been mentioned on this very thread, lack the flirt-fu or get all frozen up and stiff around the people they're crushing on and not only can't make the first move, they can't work up the nerve to reciprocate to generalized nonspecific flirtage.
As per example, if Hec had waited for me to flirt back or encourage him to kiss me, I'd still be living in Berkeley with my cats and Matilda wouldn't exist.
Two different people told you about the crush. Ask her out for coffee, offer to buy her a drink, ask for her number, do
something.
Poor dear, she's probably paralyzed by your desirability, and is now all sad because the two friends are reporting back to her that they mentioned her crush to you and you were all "Nuh-uh if I have to go first" and now she's feeling like she can't possibly go first so it's hopeless and obviously she is repulsive to you or why would you not even try with such encouragement?
Of course, I could be talking totally out of my ass. But you're already single and not getting nookie; if you give it a try and nothing comes of it, the worst that happens is that you continue exactly the way you are now.
But you're already single and not getting nookie; if you give it a try and nothing comes of it, the worst that happens is that you continue exactly the way you are now.
Bingo! Go asking for coffee, choose coffee!
I'd like some coffee!
Sadly, no coffee for me unless my parents go out of town. BOOOO!
And, since Jilli is our Boss, you need to listen to her. Coffee.
I'd like some coffee!
I have coffee. Pete very kindly brought it to me, after dropping me off at the office. Fear me, I am becoming over-caffeinated.
I had a big ass iced coffee. Now am a bit jittery.
But, also, am jittery because I just got off the phone with a school who offered me an Actual Job. Teaching. Woot!!! I actually have another interview tomorrow morning, so I begged off giving an answer until tomorrow. But, am v. excited. And jittery.
YAY, ChiKat.
I want LOTS of baked goods containing chocolate. Chocolate cake with chocolate frosting. Chocolate chip cookies. Brownies.
That will do for a start.
(edited because I'm a dolt)
Heh. Well, I was on IM with her last night and finagled a "I came to Baltimore and my car got broken into so it's your job to make my next trip up there super awesome" invite...though we didn't pin down a time or anything...
But seriously, I'm not against making a first move, really, but she fails to encourage it so much so that there's no convenient way FOR me to make a first move! It's maddening!! (And prior to her friends being all drunk and telling me shit, I had decided that her lack of follow through on flirtation meant she was NOT interested...seriously...months and years of this, y'all...)
EDIT TO ADD: YAY, ChiKat!! that's awesome!! Also, I had Peet's today, which was delicious, but I do not feel well caffeinated, regardless.
