I pissed DH off by insisting he bathe the kids tonight. I don't know how I keep managing to do that.

He's on vacation, yeah--but I had the kids by myself all weekend at my sisters. He did some work around the house but he also got to sleep in and eat hot meals.

I went to two grocery stores today. I keep thinking we have an equitable division of labor and yet, I'm the one that always feels like a raving bitch.

Backflung, libkitty. You rock!

He's on vacation, yeah--but I had the kids by myself all weekend at my sisters. He did some work around the house but he also got to sleep in and eat hot meals.

Remind him there's no vacation from parenting.

I just spoke to my uncle. He seems to be in a very positive spirit. He's confident that they got all the cancer and he'll make a full recovery. I'm glad that I have my cousin's wedding this summer so I can see all of my father's family. I hardly see them. Of course, I'm also glad I'll have TCG with me so I won't have a meltdown on having to see my father's family.

Just for the record:

Our 66th box is titled "OMGWTF PANDA and tunnel".

Cash ,I'm not sure you can avoid it. I consider our workloads - if you put together both home and outside work loads together - fairly equitable. and every now and then, I have to remind Matt that there are two people that are making the messes , so two people need to clean them . (and yes, I feel like a raving bitch when I bring this up, mostly because I keep my mouth shut too long) However, if we had kids, I can only imagine that it would be much worse.(very seriously, I'm not sure I would have made it) I think you guys are at the major crazy making stage of life. Two little ones that need so much of your time. I'msure if your DH gave himself enough time to think, he'd realize that there is no vacation from kids. Anyway hugs to you and may you guys find a smoother path soon.

Great box label!

Glad to hear your uncle feels good about confidence, sj.

{{Cash}} Finding a balance when you are both basically overworked (just because there is always more to do, there's always more for me to do and I don't have kids to take care of, that has to increase the workload exponentially) has to be hard.

Cashmere, what everyone else said. I mean, when do you get to be on vacation? When do I get to be on vacation?

I pissed DH off by insisting he bathe the kids tonight.

How do you manage to bathe them with your back problems, anyhow?

Our 66th box is titled "OMGWTF PANDA and tunnel".

Heh.

I just spoke to my uncle. He seems to be in a very positive spirit. He's confident that they got all the cancer and he'll make a full recovery.

Mr. Jane always thinks he works more than I do because his hours are longer (not by much though). I remind him, his are concentrated into Sun, Mon and Tues, and then only 6 hours on Friday. His job is tough, sure, but mine has its own challenges, and yet he seems to think that I'm home more often and can do more.

Getting a maid is the best thing we ever did.

DH talks about getting a gardener. I say housekeeping service first, but not until the only debt is the house. But I did say - gardening is my job- the only thing he has to do is mow the lawn ( because lawn mowing = asthma, and beth not doing anything for a day , possibly two) and occassionaly help me get rid of some of the huge pile of green waste. I am going to have some one come in and get rid of some dead trees and clean up our side yard. So I am not crazy.

I think I get feeling like a raving bitch , because a long time ago I told Matt I wouldn't tell him it was time to clean - and nor could he tell me. So I hate braking my word. I also get resentful when he apologizes for the state of the house , when he hasn't done anything to fix it. But I also have to admit , with Matt, when he has other things going on , the house stuff just sort of falls off his radar. I suspect we would have less decorating arguments if he did more daily stuff.Because when he has a strong opinion it always surprises me.

I just spoke to my uncle. He seems to be in a very positive spirit. He's confident that they got all the cancer and he'll make a full recovery.

That's awesome, sj!

I also get resentful when he apologizes for the state of the house , when he hasn't done anything to fix it. But I also have to admit , with Matt, when he has other things going on , the house stuff just sort of falls off his radar. I suspect we would have less decorating arguments if he did more daily stuff.Because when he has a strong opinion it always surprises me.

It makes me feel so much better to know other people have to hash these issues out as well.

How do you manage to bathe them with your back problems, anyhow?

My back has been tons better for the last two months. I still get plenty of twinges if I overdo it but I think Olivia being so much more mobile at this age has helped me out. I suspect that the last injection I got just needed some more time and I needed more rest to let my back heal more. I also got more realistic about how much I can take them out and worked out logistics to spare my back.

I haven't even considered getting injections for awhile, which is a good indication of how much less pain I experience on a daily basis. I did take a pain pill this evening because I went to two grocery stores (we like the butcher at one store, the prices at another).

I think DH's biggest issue is that I get shirty, then apologize for my manner. I suspect he'd rather I NOT get shirty so I didn't have to apologize later. He dislikes periodic apologies for repeating behavior patterns. He thinks the behavior patterns should change after one or two incidents and discussions.

I would love for that to happen but some of it is just my personality, sometimes it's my personality on pain, sleep dep, exhaustion, exasperation and PMT.