I go back and forth on the wedding/eloping issue (not that we are engaged). Part of me really has no need to be the center of attention for the day, since I really get nervous in those situations. OTOH, part of me thinks I will regret not having a big wedding.
My very best friend felt the same way, so she got married in a small room in the hall at which her reception was held. She, her husband, her daughter, his best man, her two brothers, her sister (who was her Maid of Honor), me (her bride's maid), her parents, his parents and Scott were the only people present, I think.
They then came out to the reception room, and had a good time. She didn't have a head table. I mean, wherever the newly wedded couple sits is a the head table, whether you like it or not, but she sat at a round table, like all the other guests.
eta... there were a lot of people at the reception; they just weren't present for the wedding ceremony.
We didn't elope because it was important to me that our wedding be about including our family and friends. We were already committted to each other, the wedding was to let everyone else realise that and celebrate it together.
And it was fun.
I love the happy eloping stories, though. My brother got married by going down to the courthouse to get the marriage license and finding out that the judge had an opening that afternoon, so they did it right then. For them, it was a perfect wedding.
I like a small round table for the couple, instead of a big head table. I've seen that at a couple of weddings. Then the rest of the wedding party can sit with their loved ones.
My friend sat with her family at a regular sized round table, which sat 8 to 10 people, but nothing was arranged to make it head table-ish. I actually can't remember if I sat at her table or not. I think not -- I think Scott and I sat with a bunch of our friends, but this was 1991.
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I like a small round table for the couple, instead of a big head table.
This is what we did. Frankly, we didn't get much of a chance to sit and eat, anyway. And since the best man was my DH's 75 year old grandfather, and my maid of honor was my 15 year old niece, a head table just didn't make sense.
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A neighbor-friend, who writes a syndicated humor column has made a deal with his daughter. "Elope and I'll give you [insert mid-5-figure sum here]. If you have a wedding...I'll come."
He and his wife got married, after being together for more than a decade, by meeting at a judge's chambers during lunch and then going back to work.
Interestingly, their marriage is one of the strongest I've ever seen.
Riffing off what Beej said because good/big weddings do not always ensure good/long marriages: There's no one way to get married, but when I was planning my wedding it sometimes felt as if the wedding industry was trying to push/pull me that way. There were assumptions made -- about the dress I'd want, the garter, the veil, the food, the dance, etc. -- and on many of these I'd have to put my foot down and say, "No! Not going to happen that way."
I don't think that my wedding planner was being evil, I just think there's a checklist involved and when you do deviate it's more work for everyone involved.
Speaking of more work, why do people always want statistics that don't exist?
