Yeah, I've generally gone with the whole two-is-one deal on dyad communication, with a few exceptions. I tend to tell the SO every little detail of every single thing, but I suspect that's just my own neurosis. He's like Robin's, but I don't know if it's because of a privacy thing or not. He's very outgoing, and people have a tendency to just tell him things, so I think it's more that.

And then also, we really have completely separate sets of friends. Since moving here we've been more couply, but in NM my hermit needs meant that he had a separate set of buddies that I didn't really know at all. We'd like each others' friends, but we have such different social needs that they just don't really cross up. That is to say, he could tell me his friends' secrets and I would be all, who now? So he doesn't bother, generally, unless it's philosophically interesting or something.

I don't have to tell the SO everything if something is told to me in confidence, but I also won't lie to him when asked to. But I would tell the requester, not gonna happen, at the time of the request, so still aboveboard.

The only time dyad communication gets really tricky is when the relationship itself is tricky. Like our friends with the imploding marriage (and we've been through several of those. I dunno how we ended up dubbed the 'stable couple who can help you navigate your divorce.').

We had our quarterly birthday party today. Rescheduled from last Wednesday. So it was a V-day theme. I got a rose. And a heart-shaped doily with my name on it.

I don't like this week very much. I think I'm going to go home now, and seriously consider working from home on Friday.

Damn.

On the same day that Britney was shaving her head, a guy I know who works in the office of Senator Bernie Sanders sent me an email. He was trying very hard to get news organizations interested in some research his office had done about George Bush's proposed 2008 budget, which was unveiled two weeks ago and received relatively little press, mainly because of the controversy over the Iraq war resolution. All the same, the Bush budget is an amazing document. It would be hard to imagine a document that more clearly articulates the priorities of our current political elite.

Not only does it make many of Bush's tax cuts permanent, but it envisions a complete repeal of the Estate Tax, which mainly affects only those who are in the top two-tenths of the top one percent of the richest people in this country. The proposed savings from the cuts over the next decade are about $442 billion, or just slightly less than the amount of the annual defense budget (minus Iraq war expenses). But what's interesting about these cuts are how Bush plans to pay for them.

Sanders's office came up with some interesting numbers here. If the Estate Tax were to be repealed completely, the estimated savings to just one family -- the Walton family, the heirs to the Wal-Mart fortune -- would be about $32.7 billion dollars over the next ten years.

The proposed reductions to Medicaid over the same time frame? $28 billion.

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I don't keep other people's secrets from DH, and if someone asked me to, I'd refuse. It would just be weird and awkward. (Unless it's something like "Don't tell E, but I'm going to buy him a pony for Christmas. What's his favorite color?")

if someone asked me to, I'd refuse

What if it ws like, soooper personal. Like, TMI girly stuff?

So long as I like somebody, I am the Fort Knox of secrets.

I was going to post a specific example of inter-dyad communication gone wonky, but then I remembered that I'd seen on the guy's myspace that he's a Jossverse fan. Figured I'd better not in case he's lurking. (Are you lurking?)

It's funny, 'cause I don't remember if he was in the fandom when we were friends. Am I responsible for it? I don't recall. Maybe I'm due a toaster and didn't even know it.

What if it ws like, soooper personal. Like, TMI girly stuff?

I'd honestly rather not know myself than be asked to keep it from DH. Even if it's something I probably wouldn't tell him anyway (like girly medical TMI details about a non-mutual friend), I wouldn't want to be put in a position where I *couldn't*.

I tend to not tell other people's secrets to Paul. Or tell them in general, if I'm made aware that it's an actual secret. Side effect, perhaps, of years under NDA.

Which, when I knew about Certain Friends' Baby News, involved MONTHS of tongue biting, because I really wanted to share it with someone, but it wasn't my news to share.

I usually tell TCG everything, and he usually forgets I told him.