my girlfriends tell me things about their partners that I'm sure the partners think are secrets, if not explicitly so.
Oh, yeah, and this. It's a weird matrix of confidences.
Walking I get. But power walking? Why not just run for a shorter time?
Angel ,'Time Bomb'
Natter Five-O: Book 'Em, Danno.
Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.
§ ita § - Feb 20, 2007 10:56:31 am PST #2260 of 10001
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.
-t - Feb 20, 2007 10:57:14 am PST #2261 of 10001
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration
Flea's answer is pretty much mine on secrets, though when there is drama I think we are probably even more likely to tell each other because we want to be able to discuss the drama with someone who isn't in the middle of it.
Jesse - Feb 20, 2007 10:59:50 am PST #2262 of 10001
Sometimes I trip on how happy we could be.
Oh, yeah, and this. It's a weird matrix of confidences.
Not for nothing, but there's only so much to talk about, and "OMG wait til you hear THIS" is way better than another aggravating day at work or whatever.
Tom Scola - Feb 20, 2007 11:00:58 am PST #2263 of 10001
Remember that the frontier of the Rebellion is everywhere. And even the smallest act of insurrection pushes our lines forward.
Saw this coming
Wow. You must be psychic or something.
§ ita § - Feb 20, 2007 11:01:38 am PST #2264 of 10001
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.
"OMG wait til you hear THIS" is way better than another aggravating day at work or whatever.
Unless you need them to go kill your boss.
Okay, kettlebell!
Miracleman - Feb 20, 2007 11:02:13 am PST #2265 of 10001
No, I don't think I will - me, quoting Captain Steve Rogers, to all of 2020
I assume that if I tell one person in a couple something, the other person will be told.
Personally I've taken to announcing the fact that Aimee will be told unless a) the confider specifically asks me not to (never happens) or 2) It's a surprise for Aimee.
Scrappy - Feb 20, 2007 11:05:52 am PST #2266 of 10001
Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.
I'm with Flea. If I am asked not to tell my partner, I won't, but a fact told to me is usually a fact told to us. J is much more private--not only would he not tell me secrets entrusted by others, he won't tell me fairly ordinary things without express permission to share. "How was lunch with John? How did that job interview he told us about go?" "He mentioned it to me, but I don't know if I can tell you."
Jesse - Feb 20, 2007 11:09:25 am PST #2267 of 10001
Sometimes I trip on how happy we could be.
I'm such a yakker -- this is why I like having non-overlapping sets of friends, so I can tell you people secrets of my grad school friends (or whoever), because you don't actually care, when I just have to let it out!
Matt the Bruins fan - Feb 20, 2007 11:13:53 am PST #2268 of 10001
"I remember when they eventually introduced that drug kingpin who murdered people and smuggled drugs inside snakes and I was like 'Finally. A normal person.'” —RahvinDragand
I assume that anything I say to half a couple is fair game for the other half to know. And that even if I request secrecy, I better be prepared for the possibility of the secret not being kept. Even if it's not an intentional violation of the confidence (and spousal relationships do trump any loyalty I can expect to receive, except maybe from my parents), there's just too much opportunity to stumble and accidentally reveal something to a person if most of your daily conversation is with them.
Cashmere - Feb 20, 2007 11:15:31 am PST #2269 of 10001
Now tagless for your comfort.
People DH works with know not to share ANYTHING with him. He sucks at secrets.
I'm not very good with them either, so I try to avoid finding them out if I can.
Except when it comes to presents.