On the upside, bon bon, nobody does ceremony like the Catholic church. I'm prot to the bone, but when I attend weddings, funerals and baptisms, I always walk away thinking they've got it all over the protestants.

Plus they got that neato smokey thing they swing around....

ION - this is I guess not surprising, except in a "Where's the outrage?" sort of way. OK, maybe the lack of outrage isn't surprising either....

Iraq war amputee denied photo-op with Bush.

“‘Are you telling me that I can’t go to the ceremony ’cause I’m an amputee?‘” asked David Thomas, an Iraq war veteran who was awarded a Purple Heart. Thomas was told he could not wear shorts to attend a ceremony with President Bush because the media would be there, and shorts were not advisable because the amputees would be seated in the front row. David responded, “I’m not ashamed of what I did, and y’all shouldn’t be neither.” When the guest list came out for the ceremony, his name was not on it.

Now I wonder about my parents -- I don't know for sure that they got married by a priest, but my mother's Catholic family put the wedding together, but my father's obviously a Prot. Maybe it's all related to why I got baptised Catholic as a baby.

Plus they got that neato smokey thing they swing around....

Some Episcopalians have that too!

FYI, I've gone back and edited the original post w/r/t raising kids Catholic to have the proper info. I hadn't realised that it changed, and I should have double-checked before posting. I'm sorry if I caused you any grief, bon bon.

The nuptial ceremony without the Mass is not bad. It's what we did, and from start to finish it was probably 45 minutes. It's a reading from the Old Testament, a responsorial Psalm, a reading from the New Testament, the gospel and homily, the sacrament of marriage, the general intercessions, and the final blessing. You do get to pick the readings, and some of them are not as overtly religious as others. My DH didn't find it too burdensome.

Some Episcopalians have that too!

Episcopalians also are the ones that have primates. Maybe I should join....

Maria, when you got married, did you and DH have to sit on opposite sides of the altar until after the actual sacramental-hey-you're-married part?

Despite having grown up Catholic, every Catholic wedding I ever attended didn't make the couple sit apart from each other until the vows part. But then my college roommate had a very traditional Catholic wedding -- Italian Catholic, like you, Maria -- in Youngstown, Ohio. And she and her husband sat on opposite sides of the altar throughout the Mass, until they were officially married.

That just really threw me for a minute. And made me wonder if all the other Catholic weddings I had attended were casual!Catholic.

Despite having grown up Catholic, every Catholic wedding I ever attended didn't make the couple sit apart from each other until the vows part. But then my college roommate had a very traditional Catholic wedding -- Italian Catholic, like you, Maria -- in Youngstown, Ohio. And she and her husband sat on opposite sides of the altar throughout the Mass, until they were officially married.

I've been to a lot of Catholic weddings, Teppy, and they have all had the couple standing or kneeling next to each other at the altar.

bon bon, you know you're not even on the same continent as bridezilla, right? You're just working stuff out.

Bridezilla is all about, "IT'S MY SPECIAL DAY, SO CAN'T YOU JUST WALK THE POODLE DOWN THE AISLE BECAUSE HE IS MY PRECIOUS AND I'VE ALWAYS DREAMED OF IT AND DADDY, PLEASE BUY ME THE $15,000 CAKE OR MY SPECIAL DAY WON'T BE SPECIAL."

Episcopalians also are the ones that have primates. Maybe I should join....

Everyone likes it! (I've tried to convince more than one Catholic-but-not-thrilled-with-it person to go Episcopalian. I don't think it's worked yet.)

Oh, kind of funny religion story: a Catholic friend of mine is married to a Lutheran from the midwest. Apparently his mother is predjudiced against Catholics, and will make cracks to my friend. But they're high church Lutherans, so my friend likes to say "Your mass is so nice! I already know all the words!" Because the services are almost identical in form and content. And my friend is not some blindly following Papist, so she's just not sure what the BFD is.

(I've tried to convince more than one Catholic-but-not-thrilled-with-it person to go Episcopalian. I don't think it's worked yet.)

I have a friend who once gave up being Catholic for Lent. She started attending Episcopalian services instead.

Maria, when you got married, did you and DH have to sit on opposite sides of the altar until after the actual sacramental-hey-you're-married part?

Yes and no. We actually sat right in the front of the very first pew--DH on the right and me on the left--separated by the center aisle. That's the way the church handled it, because there's no additional seating up at the altar that doesn't make things awkward. We continued to sit this way even after the sacrament. It's more for logistics than anything else.