It's just...weird. "Hi. I notice you haven't needed the car in over 2 weeks. Would you let me rent it from you until I get my car running?" If it were family, that's a different ball of wax. Also, this is my cheapskate brain scheming. And while it has its uses, I have moral blocks against using scheming to my advantage against people I care about.

edit: when I have her take care of Devi, I'm paying what I would to board the cat, without the trauma to the cat. I felt so bad the first time when I didn't.

YOU ARE NOT SCHEMING, sarameg. Stop that.

Ya know, sometimes I hate what my friends' brains say to them about themselves and their motives. I wish I could fix it all up. But what if someone fixed my brain? The idea is terrifying.

So pay what you're hearing the rate will be from rental places. Seriously, it still helps both of you.

But if you paid her even $20 a day, it's ... however much that would come to that she wouldn't have had, and it is helpful to have the car driven, just to keep the engine in shape. Plus, it would save you the hassle of returning the rental once you get your car back. If she's a friend, and she sounds like one, the worst she can do is say no.

UNTIL I CRASH HER CAR. There's a worry.

I've got weird dependency issues. And asking for help issues. As in, don't like to. Business transaction, sure. But if there is friendship or family involved, I get all freaky. ( Family loans, while no burden to the loaner, have resulted in full metal meltdowns on my part. And that's when they wanted to do it, pressured me to, over bank loans.)

I wanna fix your brain, ita. The part that causes migraines. ZAP. Delete the migraines.

You could also offer to run some errands for her, in addition to paying her a rental fee.

When's the last time you crashed a car? Stop with that thinking.

You help your neighbours all the time. You're a neighbourly person. This is part of that. So just hush yourself.

Thanks for the brain stuff, sara. No need to think big. Just take this current migraine away. Or come over and give me a shot of dilaudid.

We could do a round robin brain fixing. That might be fun.

On my way home, I bought a little bit of half off valentine's day candy, and a pretty nice bottle of wine, so I am now ready to say "day that just ended, bite me." YAY

When's the last time you crashed a car? Stop with that thinking.

Also, she has car insurance. You would be covered in case of an accident. Which won't happen anyway.

Also, though? Don't do it if you feel uncomfortable. But could she maybe help you out with rides to/from the rental place when it comes time to return? Also, Enterprise (at least the one up here *will* pick you up and drop you off.

Or come over and give me a shot of dilaudid.

I can do shots! I shoot my cat twice a day. realizes I am talking to ita. Realized that this might not be reassuring.

I'm gonna sleep on the neighbor idea. I'll call the rental places first thing, but also maybe maybe maybe give her a call. < deleted issues upon issues upon overthinking upon other people's finances issues >

HI! My name is sarameg and I issue and think things to death.