David, just let us comfort JZ, okay? You can do the comforting or whatever at home; we can only do this, so let us!

David, just let us comfort JZ, okay? You can do the comforting or whatever at home; we can only do this, so let us!

Have at.

PS, JZ?

When Lillian was about 6 weeks old, I massively miscalculated something and wound up overdrawn to the tune of $750. I'd also miscalculated how much working from home I could do with a newborn. I was a complete and utter wreck. We raided the 401k and did a lot of juggling just to make it through that several mnoths.

Oh, and a few weeks after that, while I didn't lock Lillian in the car, I DID lock my keys in there somehow, which trapped me inside the house until Paul could get a flexcar and rescue them.

This weekend, Tahoe. With three other grown-ups. I anticipate much sleeping and passing the baby off to them.

JZ, we made a day trip to Indiana to visit my in-laws two weeks ago. We went to lunch, returned to the in-laws house where they promptly sent me upstairs to have a nap while they played with the kids for three hours.

I love the kind of weekends that involve napping. I hope you enjoy it.

My supervisor is trying to groom me for an admin position supporting the cardiac PICU director once my boss retires, a job with all kinds of fancy perks and great money and varied and interesting duties, and I'm gonna have to tell her NO. Just NO. I can't be a remotely competent parent and spouse and do that. Which makes me feel like ass; I have this vague idea that the world is full of high-powered lawyers who are back arguing cases before the Supreme Court at 6 weeks post-partum, and I can't get my shit together enough to order an extra key for my boss's office.

Honey, your sup wouldn't be trying to groom you if he/she didn't think that you could do it. Like everyone else says, right now you're overwhelmed, but it will get better. I know that I have not an ounce of cred, being childless, but I've seen it happen. Please don't cut yourself off from an opportunity right now.

My friend locked herself out of the house when home with her daughter on mat leave. While her husband was on the other side of the country. She did some pretty amazing damage to her hand breaking back in (required stitches. And she totally destroyed the door.) It happens.

lisah, replied. Unless I broke my email too!

Eve slept like Matilda at 4 months, worse than Matilda from 6-8 months (I used to see every single hour in the clock all night), then better for a while, then bad again after a year. From 18 months onward, she was decent - up once in the night if at all. For me, getting ONE 4-hour stretch at night is very important. Peter is terrible right now, since he has a cold, but his basic pattern is up twice between 8 and 5:30, which is manageable for me.

Honestly, even flea's sleep deprivation went on longer than my own, and longer than most people I know (I have 18 nieces and nephews, my cousins' kids, and my friends' kids -- I truly know a lot of people with a lot of kids). I'm not saying we were all free of stray sleepless nights, but sleep interruptions usually become the exception, not the rule.

It should pass, and the worst of it, for most people I know, has largely ended by the time the baby is between 6 and 9 months. It was significantly earlier for me, but all three of my children were born full term, and were bigger than Matilda.

Oh god, sara! Until you posted that I forgot I had done the same exact thing! Locked Em in the house while Joe was at work and landlords in Michigan.

In my case, it was my legs that got all effed up, not my hands like your friend. Which, owie. Stiches in the hands AND having baby to take care of!

When we were buying this house (well, making one of our pre-buy visits to it), my sister-in-law locked herself, my kids, and her kid out of our house. I think sil was pregnant at the time, too. Everyone was covered in mosquito bites, by the time we got home.

And of course, I ran my pregnant self over with the mini van, because I left the car running and forgot to put it in park, and I managed to damage BOTH of our cars, in the process.

It was significantly earlier for me

Same here, but Em was the other side of the extreme. Through the night at 6 weeks. No real issues until we started sleep training her, and none until t looks at watch three weeks ago when she suddenly decided bedtime was negotiable. Now we have the added fun of her being able to apparate into our bed without either one of us noticing until we wake up the next morning!