Another job just said "We really like you, but not for any position we have open."

You're just a unique flower, babe.

Sometimes I get woken up 2-3 times a night, but nobody expects me to, you know, actually get up and be a functional parent.

Which makes me feel like ass; I have this vague idea that the world is full of high-powered lawyers who are back arguing cases before the Supreme Court at 6 weeks post-partum, and I can't get my shit together enough to order an extra key for my boss's office.

You mean the ones who quite possibly have nannies to take care of some of the parenting and household stress? Who can probably afford to have somebody else whip up dinner so that neither they nor their high-powered husbands have to worry about that and can instead concentrate on their jobs/kiddie fun time/selves?

Probably not a fair comparison.

My supervisor is trying to groom me for an admin position supporting the cardiac PICU director once my boss retires, a job with all kinds of fancy perks and great money and varied and interesting duties, and I'm gonna have to tell her NO. Just NO. I can't be a remotely competent parent and spouse and do that.

When is your boss retiring? Because things aren't going to be like this forever -- Matilda *will* start sleeping through the night. Probably pretty soon, if what I hear about babies is true. And then once you can get some regular sleep, you'll be able to handle everything with ease.

So unless your boss is retiring this afternoon, please don't tell your supervisor no.

When is your boss retiring? Because things aren't going to be like this forever -- Matilda *will* start sleeping through the night. Probably pretty soon, if what I hear about babies is true. And then once you can get some regular sleep, you'll be able to handle everything with ease.

So unless your boss is retiring this afternoon, please don't tell your supervisor no.

What Steph said.

ack poor JZ!

sarameg, insent.

JZ, it won't always be this bad. Don't give up on a good job for the long term just because you are desperately sleep-deprived now. I swear to you, it will get better, and fast. Right now she's adjusting to you working, and in a bad phase age-wise. This isn't the last bad phase, but it will get better. I promise.

So unless your boss is retiring this afternoon, please don't tell your supervisor no.

This. I think that it might be the sleep dep talking and general overwhelmedness. When you're in it, it's so hard to understand that it will change and get better... I talk here of general overwhelmedness and sleep dep and high frikken anxiety, not the kid stuff (of which I know nothing)... but, if it didn't get better, parents wouldn't have more than one kid, right?

An interesting new position with more perks and money etc... could be right up your alley, as long as it's not, as Steph says, this week.

Hang in there JZ.

Probably pretty soon, if what I hear about babies is true.

Emmett didn't sleep through the night until he was 5.

Emmett didn't sleep through the night until he was 5.

Matilda's not Emmett.

Probably pretty soon, if what I hear about babies is true.

Emmett didn't sleep through the night until he was 5.

Honey. Even though that's true, please don't add any more unproven worry to your sleep-deprived wife's brain, or she might just flip out like a mammal. Justifiably so.