My grey is coming in at the temples. It's so cool.

Hell, amych, I started coloring my hair in my 20s. I was having problems covering gray in my 30s, too. My mother wasn't kind enough to give me the good genes (she was barely gray in her 50s.) Nooo, she saved the big boobs for my daughter, and, I'm willing to bet, the late blooming gray hair. Bitch.

(And I have to admit to a deep resentment of people who get all OMG! I HAVE THREE GRAY HAIRS! Bite me, babe, I'm Steve Fucking Martin.)

Oh boy, I hear ya. Started going gray in my early teens and I hate having to color my hair. But I do it every three weeks, unless I want my completely gray roots showing.

I'm still able to use store bought box color (Feria) but I have to do it more often than most other people. The alternative, however, just isn't an option for me at the ripe old age of 34. I'm not ready to look like Heloise.

I'd love to wake up one morning and find myself entirely white-headed. It'll save me bleaching $$. In the meanwhile, I really can't tell how grey it is, since I barely get to see it before I bleach again.

Heck, I'd be happy to look like Heloise! She's got awesome hair. But, nooo, I've got that muddy, dull looking gray. Still too much of the natural brown in there and it's just not flattering. And box color just looks flat on my hair. It's like the color fades so quickly, that even if the gray doesn't show, the color goes really dull. And I use shampoos meant for colored hair. Frustrating, which is why I have my daughter color it. I can be absolutely sure of the color lasting for the 5 weeks between color and cut.

ita, can I ask a personal question that I hope isn't too invasive?

Why the blonde?

amych, what's your natural color? What's your grey percentage? Target color, if you decide to dye?

Usually, as I recall, covering grey works best if you do a neutral brown followed by an overlay of the color you want or something like that.

I haven't had to try that, yet. When we were doing Paul's hair still, we dyed it black, avoiding many of the issues one finds with reds.

I've been getting a few grey hairs. Nothing really too noticable, but they've been there since I was about 19.

I'm really not sure where my genetics are going with this. My mom had significant grey by 35. My dad, at 59, is getting kind of salt-and-peppery.

Why the blonde?

I've always wanted hair lighter than my skin. And with my skin, I've gotta go blonde. I have nothing against my natural hair colour, but I find blonde a great distractor. You're less likely to notice any flaws in my self-administered haircut, I wager, and it looks like I've actually given a fuck. It sure beats actually styling or combing my hair, which I avoid strenuously.

I was told to go with lowlights if I wanted a more natural look with less maintenance look. it doesn't cover everything - so the root thing is n't as noticable. the ony reason Ididn't was that my neighbor does my hair in my house. I lose her - and I will look into it.

and yes all my greys are in the front