Seriously, David. Why did you throw that in there?
Because you wanted to know why I responded the way I did. I had a strong reaction to what vw said. I was trying to make my motive clear. It wasn't idle poking. I strongly felt that what she said was a dangerous misconception. It's entirely my fault that I broached that subject with her in a glib manner.
I was not trying to imply that vw was responsible for the kefuffle or my inapproriate tone.
I do still think her presumption is dangerously wrong. I don't feel like I'm pressing that argument because there's no argument there. Nobody is making the case that humans can sense evil in others.
I honestly don't know what planet you are from sometimes.
The planet of having better things to do on Saturday night.
I'm responsible for my behavior (including what I post) - not her reaction to it.
It's yelling, "Fire!" in the crowded theatre... Yes, you have free speech but say some things and you *are* responsible for the reactions. In this case, I feel you were out of line.
No it's not. It might've been insensitive, but it doesn't fall under that legalistic distinction. Else anything you said that was potentially upsetting to somebody else could be prohibited.
I wasn't arguing legalities so much as community responsibility. Sometimes we say things that upset other people, we apologize and move on. It would be nice if the apology were sincere. And if we could move on, actually.
The planet of having better things to do on Saturday night.
Then by all means, go do it. Because what you are doing in here, isn't doing anyone any good at all.
Don't worry Aimee, I'm off to do them now.
It's slightly more exciting than my "Another Saturday night, and I ain't got nobody," planet.
Although it's totally raining and hailing here, so I wouldn't be painting the town in any case.
And now comes the part we call “repair” in therapy. Since I did this in public, I need to repair it in public as well.
There have been some interactions on the board recently that I haven’t liked. I’ve not spoken up about them at the time and let them just stew inside me. And now, tonight, when I felt the same sort of thing directed at me, I went ballistic. Or, a little batshit crazy.
I’m not going to respond to anything said in the last 30 or so posts. I think it’s time to repair and move on. Thank you to those of you who so took my back. It’s nice to feel so loved. But, really, I have some apologies to make.
First, David, I’m sorry I took out a bunch of built-up frustrations on you. I’m sorry that I was a bit passive-aggressive in my post, even though that was mostly from hysterics and frustration. I still need to take responsibility for my typing and hitting the post button. I think we both could have said things better, but hindsight is always 20/20.
Second, I’m sorry to everyone for the graphic nature of my post. I was angry, hurt, and hysterical, and just really not thinking straight, which happens when I get triggered. I have edited my post to take out the graphic pieces. I would hate to trigger anyone else with the graphic elements of that post.
Third, I’m sorry I’ve just been so stressed lately and probably taking it out on people on the board. I will work on that. Please call me on it when I’m doing it (although, if you’d drop me an e-mail, that would nicer than on the board).
Lastly, I'm sorry for the tension caused on the board tonight. I really had no intention to start a kerfuffle.
First, David, I’m sorry I took out a bunch of built-up frustrations on you.
I'm sorry I was so thoughtless and insensitive, vw.
I’m sorry that I was a bit passive-aggressive in my post,
Well, you know I did catch that element and it probably had me digging in my heels when I should've backed off. I found that provocative in a way that was out of proportion.
Lastly, I'm sorry for the tension caused on the board tonight. I really had no intention to start a kerfuffle.
Me neither. Namaste.
